My second c-section was elective and it was a very positive experience. The anaesthetist came to my bedside before the op to explain everything and throughout the procedure everything that was happening was explained very clearly. I was well looked after once back on the ward and monitored regularly. I hope you also have a positive experience too! C-sections are a major op but the surgeons do several a day. They’re pros! Anything in particular that is worrying you?I need a section this time due to my placenta, I’m so terrified. Any advice you could give me?
I just kept thinking I'd ruined my kids lives when I went from 1 to 2Thanks everyone and sorry to read yous have been feeling the mum guilt too, it’s not nice! I was the same before I got pregnant I felt so guilty as she never had a sibling to play with and my best friend had 2 in under 2yrs and another close friend has twins.My husband said he’s also been feeling guilt for her which made me question whether it was the hormones or just a normal part of having more children.
I don’t know, if I had a friend that did that but wanted to put it on her tiktok I’d question her motives. All this doing it for the gram/virtue signalling can do one. Last thing I’d want as a knackered new mum is have to dress/tidy up to be plastered all over someone’s social media as ‘so in need of a break’ for them to get likes and a pay on the back.I don’t have anyone like that either, I don’t think many people do that woman is so lucky
Yep! I also found that before I got pregnant loads of women were like omg it’s the best thing you’ll ever do, you should definitely have children it’s amazing. Then the second I got pregnant, the same women were like “did I tell you about when I gave birth my vagina tore straight through to my asshole”This! I've always had this!
Thing is though, it has lasted
Everyone's always like "Don't get used to it" ect ect "it won't last"
But they've always been quite chilled.
Sure there's been phases where they haven't but even with my son, he's well behaved at 8..and even now people are still like "Just wait til this stage.. Just wait til this age"
Why can't you just let people say positive things? Why do you always have to be waiting for the bad times?
I honestly think baby smiles and laughs are the purest thing on earth. They only do it because they are so genuinely happy, and it’s making me well up just thinking about it!I don’t think my emotions are ready
I have to applaud anyone who has the energy and desire to be shagging that quickly again - I’d kill my husband with a look if he even suggested itHaha right?
Who is there with a 4 week old thinking you know what? I want another. I love this lack of sleep and emotional mess
Again, no offence to anyone who has. Each to their own
I hate people. I am so awkward, not a natural people person, I have no desire to make new friends, I am awful at small talk, and spending time with people I dunno is my idea of hell. So I’m not cut out for mum and baby groups. BUT I did go to them! And I didn’t find it so bad because you have your little buddy with you, you can use them as an excuse to leave any convo (oh we need a nappy change!) and you can chat to them if nobody else! And mostly at those groups all people talk about is feeding/sleeping/babies in general so makes it a bit easier to chat.Tomorrow I’m booked in for a mother and baby group, I’m bricking it. The breastfeeding support nurse pretty much forced me to join one last week at his weigh in as I had a wobble and think she just wants me to get out of the house.
I’m the most socially awkward person at the best of times nevermind stressing with a 6 week old baby. Worried that it’s just gonna parents of older children, any meltdowns (Went to the Coop a few days ago and he cried the place down, my anxiety hit another level) and that I’m probably gonna have to breastfeed him there.
We went from one to two 12 weeks ago. The best way I can describe how I felt was that I missed my 3 year old intensely. Someone explained to me that I’d spent 3 years loving and getting to know her and then baby came and got between us! I felt so guilty but it made sense- with the 3 yr old I knew what I was doing then baby comes and needs you so intensely but you’re pulled back to the older one too. It’s hard but it’s definitely getting easier. Our 3 yr old does 3 days in nursery and that helps us all!Hi everyone coming over here from the pregnancy threads as I just had my baby on Saturday She is my second and we have been doing well since the birth, but I have been feeling such mum guilt for my 3 yr old daughter she loves her new baby sister and hasn’t shown any jealousy towards her but I can’t shake that guilt feeling and it’s getting me a bit down! Can anyone else relate thats went from 1 to 2, is this normal post birth hormones?
Thank god you said this- the number of times I’ve felt I’ve ruined my eldests life by having another even though I only really had a second to give her a sibling!I just kept thinking I'd ruined my kids lives when I went from 1 to 2
But the way I've always tried to look at it is, you rarely hear people that do have siblings wish they didn't. But you very often hear people who have none say how much they wished they had siblings.
I gained at least 3 stone in each of my pregnancies. By the time I was on my third it never really got off again so this time I was heavier than I’ve ever been. I also have zero willpower so it should be fun losing weightI weighed myself for the first time since pre pregnancy this morning and Iv gained 3 and a half stone (oops) thankfully im not going to any weddings or on any holidays this year! I’ll give myself a year to lose it as my will power is not the best
Getting up is horrendous. I use my elbows a lot as leverage to push up, and also I always roll my body to the side rather than sit straight up. It’s been hard (I am 10 days post section and now off pain relief as it was actually giving me headaches) but finally feel I am getting there.New to this thread but dipped in and out of the pregnancy one!
Had my baby 2 days ago and still in hospital cos I'm really struggling with getting the pain under control from my csection. Does anyone have any advice on how to make things a bit easier at home with getting up and around? I can't remember too much from my recovery from my first section 2 years ago except that it was paaainful but I've for a toddler to factor in with a newborn and trying to recover myself too! X
Pinkii makes some excellent points about the benefit of dummies. Sometimes they just want to suck something and if it gives your nipples a break and gets baby to sleep it’s not going to interfere with feeding, if baby has it in 24/7 then maybe you might miss some cues but they have other cues that don’t involve their mouth (my baby gets super fidgety).Hey all, been in the newborn bubble over the last week, but happy to have graduated from the pregnancy thread to here!
I’m feeling a bit shit though as my baby is only 9 days old and I’ve already caved into giving him a dummy. He would just not settle in his bedside crib.
Constant cycle of breastfeeding, him falling asleep on me then putting him in the crib and him waking and crying straight away then repeat. So exhausting.
I can’t see it affecting breastfeeding as he’s an absolute milk monster but someone please tell me I’m not a terrible mum and I haven’t fucked everything up. Or should I have just stopped being a little bitch, and continued with the hope of him eventually learning to settle?