We are very much cosleeping now. I’m lucky he goes down well for the first part of the night but after his first wake he wakes more frequently and gets harder to settle but if I bring him to my bed he just rolls over and conks out so it’s just not worth the fight and constant up and down!Were your other two like that? It’s my own doing but I can’t take the unpredictability of it- if she goes down great, I can transfer ok. But nights like this I can’t just put her down and walk away and she’ll settle. I have friends saying oh you have to do it she’ll get over it but she won’t- it’s clearly not the right time to try this.
A bit more milk and rocking and tears (from everyone) and she’s asleep on me and seems settled
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Haha that’s good though! She’s the same although trying to replace Co sleeping with milk
some nights she sleeps right through, others the only way I would get any sleep would be if I brought her in with me.
My first went to nursery from 11m and this time around he’s at home with me and I haven’t gone back to work. He’s nearly 18 months, I haven’t noticed any difference in their development. He generally has met milestones a little slower than what she did, so I don’t worry about where he is now in comparison to her. We do one or two groups a week, which gives him a little socialisation away from our family unit because we don’t have any young kids in the family really. Other than that we spend a lot of our days at home or with my mum and the simple activities please him the most.
I used to really worry about what I could do to keep him entertained, encourage his development but I don’t anymore. I don’t beat myself up if we have a day where he does a lot of independent play. I include him in day to day activities where I can. Nothing makes him happier than helping with cleaning, putting a load of washing on or even sprinkling the cheese over his sandwich
just enjoy the time with him xx
Looks like we’re on a two stop feed tonight 🥲 baby Wood has shocking trapped wind, I’m guessing, from the new sized tests. He slept all of yesterday so he’s not tired and super hungry tonight. To top it off, husband can’t walk still, so I’m going all the feeds and looking after the both of us, too. He’s back at work so I’m not getting any respite and I’m losing my mind.
Never ever letting her nap so long so late again. Two wake ups so far, I’m shattered. My husband brought her in because I didn’t even hear the first one with her screaming apparently 
No sleep for me tonight. Wood spent the past five hours sounding like he’s choking on phlegm. Any suggestions on getting rid of the mucus would be appreciated.
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Sounds awful. Didn’t realise naps were so integral to nighttime sleep. Hopefully tonight will be better.Never ever letting her nap so long so late again. Two wake ups so far, I’m shattered. My husband brought her in because I didn’t even hear the first one with her screaming apparently
@xoxo GG @loveanatter Thanks both for relplies. I take baby wotsit to 2 or 3 groups a week so hope that helps him social. I think about 18 months maybe I’ll be ready to send him to nursery….hes defo the only one we will have so I just want to enjoy it as much as possible for now. Will have to see how things go financially. I did think maybe send for a morning session or two…. There’s a nice nursery literally 1 min walk from us.
Make sure you have her name down, as I know since the hours were announced, they’ve all got busy.
Ours isn’t taking anymore babies til Sept 2025
xxMaybe a sliced onion in his room?
Oh wow. Ok yeah will do!!! ThankyouMake sure you have her name down, as I know since the hours were announced, they’ve all got busy.
Ours isn’t taking anymore babies til Sept 2025
Yes I would definitely start looking into this now. I originally wanted Rita to do 2 mornings at nursery but they don’t do mornings only in the baby room apparently and then when she moves up to the next room in September she’ll be using her funded hours so can only do full days there too… obviously it depends on the nursery but they are getting booked up very quickly and you might have to search to find one that you want x
Baby bandit was very mucusy the first few months and we were told to do tummy time as much as possible and to gently massage his back as both of those would get the mucus moving and help get it out (and it worked - snot everywhere when he was doing tummy time
). I hope he feels better soon 
Been swapping her about since she was about 5/6 months I think. I prefer her facing me but my husband thinks she prefers looking out. I heard sometimes it can over stimulate them to be forward facing too much. Plus I miss her when she’s forward facing and like to talk to her so I regularly have her facing me.
Switching baby Kaye from the bassinet to the lie flat seat has made all the difference. Went for a coffee and she was getting grumpy so I put her in the pram, and she just dropped off and actually stayed asleep whilst I went round shops - unheard of! She woke up on the walk home but didn't scream like she used to in the bassinet. She's happy to be awake in the pram - revolutionary. 
Went to messy play. Every other child there - from 6 months to 3 year olds - was really into it, getting into the bins, having fun. Maybe a little moving between bins but not much.
My child was crawling around the outside of the hall chasing balloons for the majority of the time. Not at all arsed by the sensory bins. Quite enjoyed trying to eat everything that wasn't meant to be eaten (the plastic plant in the oat and spinach bin, the pen in the little card making station for the older kids). I am exhausted.
My child was crawling around the outside of the hall chasing balloons for the majority of the time. Not at all arsed by the sensory bins. Quite enjoyed trying to eat everything that wasn't meant to be eaten (the plastic plant in the oat and spinach bin, the pen in the little card making station for the older kids). I am exhausted.
My little bubs is in intermediate care as he was born early,he is struggling to bf but I'm pumping as much as I can. I'm using the hospital pump but find my day is trying to bf him or pump and repeat.
Would I be waisting my time with the hands free pumps, I'm getting the hospital ones for free atm
Would I be waisting my time with the hands free pumps, I'm getting the hospital ones for free atm
I think the hospital grade ones are a lot better, they are better at not blocking ducts and drawing more milk out, I think they get a better fit too but don’t quote me on that. There are some good hands free ones though and if it helps you to have a little bit of time not plugged in then perhaps you could alternate 1 pump session to be hands free?
I hope LO is doing ok and you can go home soon! X
If you can get the hospital grade one for free for now, carry on with that I think.
It's exhausting isn't it. My LO wasn't in intermediate care but he was jaundiced so under the 'disco light' for 6 days when he was born, at one point we were taking him out of the lamp, feeding him which took well over an hour, closer to an hour and a half on a good go, I was pumping for half an hour when my OH changed him and put him back in the light box, I would go to the loo and grab a drink once I finished pumping and then it was time to try and feed him again as we were on a 3 hour feeding cycle. It's totally unsustainable!
Everyone I asked told me to keep the hospital grade one going for a few weeks until I could start successfully breastfeeding (that didn’t happen for us).
We combi fed for the first few weeks & I hired the Medela hospital grade (as annoying as it is as the weeks went on I didn’t need to pump as much as I’d get 3/4 bottles worth in one session) - could you look to see if they have any other pumps to hire?
But could be worth getting a hands free one for 1/2 pumping sessions and see how it goes? I have friends who still use theirs to top up milk for nursery now at 9+months so would still be used in the future too.
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