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Hbirdette

Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?!
 
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Kitt

Hbirdette said:
Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?! View attachment 756660
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yep super expensive. I was going to try whirli at around 6 months old. Less expensive - also less fancy / Montessori looking stuff - but that’s what I have my eye on for toy subscription.
 

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Hbirdette said:
Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?! View attachment 756660
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Mega expensive! Surely it makes more sense to buy what you want, as you want it? I feel like you could get the same stuff from Amazon for half price or less with very little effort. I know the point is that it’s effortless but I wouldn’t pay double for that personally
 
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Hbirdette said:
Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?! View attachment 756660
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Sooooo expensive. I was delighted to see them doing stuff in the UK now, and I really subscribe to a lot of Montessori principles, and their stuff looks great but ‍ so expensive! That said when I looked up the bits I wanted it worked out very expensive that way too as a few pieces seem quite unique to them (obvs the ones I’m after ). Plus I can see this stuff lasting well, and I dread to think what is spent on toys overall but since this is our last baby I can’t justify that price.
 
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Hbirdette said:
Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?! View attachment 756660
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Yes! Crazy expensive. I guess some of the toys in there are quite niche ones you can’t get elsewhere so if there are specific ones you wanted it might be worth a one off, but still…

my 2 week old still prefers staring at a black and white cushion I’ve had for about 10 years as opposed to the £27 Etta Loves sensory muslins I bought the other day out of guilt I wasn’t stimulating her enough!
 
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Hbirdette said:
Just had a look at the Lovevery subscription boxes. Am I being tight or do these seem mega expensive?! View attachment 756660
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Oh wow....I've not seen these before (why would I? My kid is now 23 years old!)

"£38 per month of play". . I've spent loads of money on kids toys over the years, and with the benefit of hindsight, I can tell you now, that your kids will prefer the noisiest, most horrible plastic tat that you can find. I love the idea of "developmental research", gender neutral toys, things that don't harm the planet, etc, etc. But children have other ideas. My son's favourite toy was, at one point, my plastic pasta spoon (which I still have), we couldn't leave the house without it. I taught him the colours, before he could speak properly, simply because he got very excited when he saw me painting my nails red one day. Within 3 hours, he had learned the names of colours, just by me pointing out other things which were red like my nails, then blue, then yellow, and so on. My son is definitely not a genius, but you honestly don't need expensive subscription boxes in order to help your children to learn and to play. Just make sure that you talk to them all day (so do get off your phone!) Read to them often, and especially at bedtime. Let them play with cardboard boxes, let them rip up newspapers, let them bang your saucepans with a wooden spoon. Kids will play with anything, even now, mine will instantly grab the long tube from the inside of the Christmas wrapping paper, and wave it around while making light saber noises!
 
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OIM

Just have to say what a lovely name Finn is. It was our boy choice but we got a second girl. My toddler tells me her baby will be called Finn!

Kitt said:
yep super expensive. I was going to try whirli at around 6 months old. Less expensive - also less fancy / Montessori looking stuff - but that’s what I have my eye on for toy subscription.
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We use whirli and it’s brilliant. Really come into its own now there’s 2. We borrowed some brilliant baby bits and it’s so easy to return as they grow out. I’m not sure if it’s allowed but I have a referral code.
 
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Definitelyme

See when you actually say £38 a month I don’t think that then sounds that bad if you think you get about 4-5 toys they will play with for a while, whereas something like this monstrosity is £30 and has quite limited potential! We don’t have noisy, plastic stuff in our house, no toys that take batteries. I just absolutely hate them, my kids are noisy enough without adding another layer

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Baby OIM update. We should be discharged later today. She’s gone all night without the feeding tube. She’s had about 6oz of milk since 7 last night but managed some purées and water so they feel there’s nothing they can do here that we can’t do at home. I’m excited to get her home but also terrified of her deteriorating. They seem pretty sure she’s at the end of bronchiolitis and that’s why she’s off her food plus teething. We won’t know much more about her seizures until we see the specialists in October. Just crossing everything she won’t have another before then.
 
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Kitt

So I thought having visitors would be nice but I actually hate it haha. My parents came round this afternoon and my dad overstimulated the baby and didn’t let him sleep for an hour and a half and just basically shouted at him the whole time ‘say grandad’ and all this shit and in the end Finn just cried and couldn’t be soothed cause he was over tired. He’s never been like that. My dad obviously wasn’t interested once he was crying. My dad kept saying how babies are more fun from 18 months old and how he wants to be the first to take him swimming and to the seaside etc. So treats him like he’s older whereas he’s two weeks old and just needs to sleep. But apparently that’s ‘boring’. I actually wanna say ok come back when he’s 18 months old and no, we’ll be the first to do all this stuff with him. He’s our son. Me and husband are now physically and emotionally exhausted and we feel frustrated that we love our own little bubble and visits mess it up. Felt like we haven’t had any time to ourselves just us three today. My mom is absolutely lovely with him and actually listens to what I tell her to do with him, it’s amazing. I think they expect to come over every weekend but it’s actually exhausting to deal with. Haven’t had a nap today and tonight is gonna be so hard. I felt so positive this morning after the pep talk from you guys and I was doing so well with following Finn’s cues but now I just feel fed up again. Sorry, rant over.
 
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Hbirdette

Your dad sounds just like my FIL. The whole “when can he start playing golf? When can we take him to football?” Stfu he’s 6 months old he’s just dropped my husband off at home now and asked if he could say a quick hello, I was just finished doing his bedtime story so I was like errrrrrm 2 mins cause he’s not sleepy yet but I don’t wanna stimulate him. So what does he do? Tries to tickle the poor thing, which then set him off crying. My in laws do a really shitty job of trying to convince me they’d be great at looking after him. Whereas my mum, like yours, is absolutely fab with him. Why do people think that babies want to be tickled all the time?
Have you got the day together with just your husband and Finn tomorrow? Time is so precious when they are back at work. I’m really selfish and I’m not afraid to admit it. We are going away for our wedding anniversary in November and his parents have asked if they can come for the night so my husband and his dad can play golf. Obviously it was a flat no from me!
 
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Kitt

Oh god, why can’t people have a little thought and try to respect what we’re saying as their parent? It’s just tiring.
yeah we’ve got the day just us tomorrow so we’re going to have a super chill homey day together. I need to be more selfish and be able to say no. Before Finn arrived I was very emotionally reliant on my mom and would call her every day and talk to her about everything but now I feel like I’m not like that at all and my husband has majorly stepped up and shown how much I can actually rely on him and I don’t need approval and emotional support from my mom so much anymore. So I think I want to step away from my parents a bit but they want to be around me more cause of Finn lol.
As if they wanted to come away with you for your anniversary though! Boundaries, people!

I really appreciate you all on here. You’re genuinely like mum friends who I can turn to for advice and proper chats. You’re all lovely xx
 
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Definitelyme

@Kitt ugh it is so hard having other people around your baby, I definitely feel you on that. You feel like you don’t want to be rude and snatch your baby back, but sometimes babies just need their mummies again They need us to regulate them after some stranger (to them!) has been over stimulating them. But it is so hard, because it feels rude to just say “give me my baby back”. Sounds like an exhausting day for you, and for Finn. I hope he sleeps well tonight and you get some rest.
You don’t have to invite anyone over. You could play the covid card and say you’re being careful, or you could just straight up say you don’t want any visitors right now and you’ll be in touch soon. You don’t owe anyone anything when it comes to Finn
 
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Disneylifeonly

The pain in my coccyx is still very much here. And mt health anxiety is just telling me more and more its something more sinister than just an after effect of child birth
 
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Hbirdette

Ladies, I’ve just got this for my little boy and stuck it to the table on his mamas and papas activity seat. He LOVES it
 
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mg89

Hbirdette said:
Ladies, I’ve just got this for my little boy and stuck it to the table on his mamas and papas activity seat. He LOVES it View attachment 758713
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I've been looking at these for the highchair! I put the toy bit from his mamas and papas chair onto the highchair tray but I think he's a bit bored of it now. Does it stick down quite well?
 
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Kitt

sorry I liked this the other night and forgot to reply. Thank you, we love his name so much and we get so many compliments too which is lovely.

would love a code! I’m not gonna start looking into it until the new year though, so if you’re still using it then and have a code can I ask you for it then?

hope your little one is doing ok today xx
 
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Hbirdette

mg89 said:
I've been looking at these for the highchair! I put the toy bit from his mamas and papas chair onto the highchair tray but I think he's a bit bored of it now. Does it stick down quite well?
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I think the mamas and papas seat is one of the best things we’ve bought so far. Sticks down really well! He gives it a good old whack and it hasn’t budged. I love the Lamaze stuff, my mum bought him the playgym when he was born and he still loves it now
 
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Definitelyme

If you’re looking for stuff to suction down I really recommend these (loads on Amazon). I imagine they’d stick well to a high chair tray, we stick them on patio doors, the floor etc and baby loves them (so does our toddler). They are great wee ones for tummy time, and they always shush him up if he’s grumping

Amazon product
 
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