New baby and post birth advice #28 being a mum is the best present I could have ever wished for

[Lulu Goss]

Just checking in, hope everyone’s good!

Went out for Mr Gs birthday yesterday so baby had a sleepover at my mum and dads. My mum messaged this morning to say she’d gone to sleep like an angel, slept through the night and woke up at 7am. Why doesn’t she do that for me?!

Drank way too much Prosecco yesterday, so instead of enjoying a full nights uninterrupted sleep I was up every hour being sick. The only plus is that now at 9am my hangover has basically been and gone, so at least I can make the most of the next 3 hours to chill out before baby comes home!

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Could be the change of routine and teeth, as they’re always moving under the gums getting ready. Poor little cat, I hope they come soon for her! You’re probably going to be like us, yay 1!!! Then.it.never.damn.ends
She sounds like she’s so chilled about nursery though which is amazing! Lil P has a meltdown if someone else looks at her, yet hates being held/cuddled by me
I feel like the later I’m leaving it, the worse it’s going to get! I’m so worried about the socialisation side of things!!

Aww bless her, it might help her get used to being around other people, it’s so hard but it is for the best. She is so chilled going in to nursery but when she gets down she has a cry. It’s like she saves it up all day for me cheers love.
Still can’t see any teeth, but I do love her gummy little smiles x

 

[Definitelyme]

Just checking in, hope everyone’s good!

Went out for Mr Gs birthday yesterday so baby had a sleepover at my mum and dads. My mum messaged this morning to say she’d gone to sleep like an angel, slept through the night and woke up at 7am. Why doesn’t she do that for me?!

Drank way too much Prosecco yesterday, so instead of enjoying a full nights uninterrupted sleep I was up every hour being sick. The only plus is that now at 9am my hangover has basically been and gone, so at least I can make the most of the next 3 hours to chill out before baby comes home!

She knew you weren’t there to torture so thought she wouldn’t bother waking all night

Enjoy the quiet!

 

[Rxt156]

i hate surprise visits. please don’t drop in EVER. Whether or not you’re passing/nearby/dying
I had a friend who refused to let his own mother in who was at the door because she didn’t call first

 

[Borntorun]

i hate surprise visits. please don’t drop in EVER. Whether or not you’re passing/nearby/dying
I had a friend who refused to let his own mother in who was at the door because she didn’t call first

Pre-kids I didn’t care, I rarely lock my door and friends knew they were more than welcome to just let themselves in. But that’s because pre-kids, my house was always visitor ready. Now, I need about ten working days notice to make it semi presentable and tbh that actually involves shoving all the mess upstairs and closing the door

 

[Belle Amie]

i hate surprise visits. please don’t drop in EVER. Whether or not you’re passing/nearby/dying
I had a friend who refused to let his own mother in who was at the door because she didn’t call first

My FIL does this all the time and it’s always when my partner is out, he did it a couple of weeks ago when I was feeding and only wearing a sports bra and pj shorts. Most annoying tit ever! My OH has told him so many times to not just turn up as well and he still does it I just leave him at the door now until I’m ready

 

[Rxt156]

I spent months wanting the baby to nap on his own. Now he’s asleep in his bed and I miss him why am I like this

 

[Lulu Goss]

I spent months wanting the baby to nap on his own. Now he’s asleep in his bed and I miss him why am I like this

I’m sat looking at photos of mine (instead of cleaning the house like I said I would) waiting for my mum to bring her home

 

[cupcake_face]

Is it bad that my poor KW has just tested positive for Covid (we’ve both managed to avoid it so far) and other than hoping Baby Cupcake doesn’t catch it my first thought was that I’ll be fuming if I catch it on mat leave and don’t get to make the most of the mandatory 5 day isolating from work?!

 

[LittleBluebird]

Is it bad that my poor KW has just tested positive for Covid (we’ve both managed to avoid it so far) and other than hoping Baby Cupcake doesn’t catch it my first thought was that I’ll be fuming if I catch it on mat leave and don’t get to make the most of the mandatory 5 day isolating from work?!

I caught it 2 weeks before my c section and one of the reasons I was irritated was because I didn’t miss any days from work. That said, I was sick for 1 day with fever etc & the rest I felt fine, all things considered.

 

[sodit]

Pre-kids I didn’t care, I rarely lock my door and friends knew they were more than welcome to just let themselves in. But that’s because pre-kids, my house was always visitor ready. Now, I need about ten working days notice to make it semi presentable and tbh that actually involves shoving all the mess upstairs and closing the door

I never used to mind, but also people didn't do it as much before there was a baby to mither.
My parents turned up on Friday evening juuuuust as we were about to press play on a film and despite me asking them to leave about a dozen times they were still here for half an hour. They just have no respect for our time as they think "oh sod it is being a stredss head for no reason, there's hours of the day left yet", ignorning that our day starts and ends earlier than theirs and that we only have little windows of opportunity when the baby is content. My dad would have gone, but my mum was just talking to D louder and louder and trying to have a play
Over winter when he was tiny she'd try turning up at like 8.30pm too, had to crack down on that. My parents think me and my husband are boring as we like to be in bed by half 9 latest during the week and they stay up until midnight (and then spend all Saturday in bed cos they're knackered from the week ). Had to make the point that we are early risers, we have to be as I start work at 7.30am in another town, and even though I'm on maternity at the min, Mr SI still gets up at our usual time and I stick with it as I like to get my morning shower before he leaves, and we might as well stay in the routine for when I'm back at work.

Anyway. We have a crawler!! He's been getting about a bit for a few weeks, but today he's properly getting room to room! Explains why he pretty literally spent the whole night fastened to me slurping down milk. I mean he normally has loads of night boob, but last night was relentless. Didn't help that he'd fallen asleep for the night on the KW (! unusual) and wasn't in his sleeping bag, so I had a blanket round him that he kept escaping from and then crying cos he was cold. We cosleep and I normally have my duvet barely covering me/nowhere near me, but he had a footless sleepsuit on so I covered his feet up to try and keep them warm.

 

[Definitelyme]

I never used to mind, but also people didn't do it as much before there was a baby to mither.
My parents turned up on Friday evening juuuuust as we were about to press play on a film and despite me asking them to leave about a dozen times they were still here for half an hour. They just have no respect for our time as they think "oh sod it is being a stredss head for no reason, there's hours of the day left yet", ignorning that our day starts and ends earlier than theirs and that we only have little windows of opportunity when the baby is content. My dad would have gone, but my mum was just talking to D louder and louder and trying to have a play
Over winter when he was tiny she'd try turning up at like 8.30pm too, had to crack down on that. My parents think me and my husband are boring as we like to be in bed by half 9 latest during the week and they stay up until midnight (and then spend all Saturday in bed cos they're knackered from the week ). Had to make the point that we are early risers, we have to be as I start work at 7.30am in another town, and even though I'm on maternity at the min, Mr SI still gets up at our usual time and I stick with it as I like to get my morning shower before he leaves, and we might as well stay in the routine for when I'm back at work.

Anyway. We have a crawler!! He's been getting about a bit for a few weeks, but today he's properly getting room to room! Explains why he pretty literally spent the whole night fastened to me slurping down milk. I mean he normally has loads of night boob, but last night was relentless. Didn't help that he'd fallen asleep for the night on the KW (! unusual) and wasn't in his sleeping bag, so I had a blanket round him that he kept escaping from and then crying cos he was cold. We cosleep and I normally have my duvet barely covering me/nowhere near me, but he had a footless sleepsuit on so I covered his feet up to try and keep them warm.

Well done baby sodit!
I always love after a rough night when you can go “ohhhh!!! Ok that’s why you were so horrendous all night! I will let you off then!”

 

[Lulu Goss]

Put baby down for her 2pm nap. Mr G came in with me and watched her fling herself all over the place in her cot, chuck her dummy out 100 times, cry, roll around again - so I was like see, this is what I’m dealing with twice a day.

She did get herself into a bit of a state crying, and I normally when that happens I just shhh her and she does calm down and go to sleep. Today she cried for longer (because she was massively overtired and her teeth are bothering her). He went into KW mode and basically said he doesn’t think she should be going to sleep like that, she’s crying too much, it’s not normal (for a baby ) and she’s obviously distressed. I don’t know what else he expects me to do, he said “isn’t leaving her to cry it out dangerous” and I was like she’s not being left to cry it out, I’m sat next to her patting her. But equally she does need to nap, he doesn’t understand that she doesn’t just fall asleep like she used to and she’s (supposedly) in a routine that I want to try and stick to.

She has fallen asleep but now I feel bad. He’s not here every day, it’s me doing it all, but now I’m wondering if I am doing it wrong and she should just be able to be put down to nap without all the dramas

 

[I’mThankyou_]

She has fallen asleep but now I feel bad. He’s not here every day, it’s me doing it all, but now I’m wondering if I am doing it wrong and she should just be able to be put down to nap without all the dramas

Ignore Mr Goss.
Find me a baby that doesn't make a drama over something be it naps, drinking milk or water, having their bum changed or getting dressed and ill give you a million pound.
(If any of you have one of these magic babies I'm skint I don't have a million quid suck on it!)
It's completely normal for them to have a screaming fit when they're over tired, or when your doing something with them they don't want to do, don't feel guilty!
Babies will always test you!

 

[Lulu Goss]

Ignore Mr Goss.
Find me a baby that doesn't make a drama over something be it naps, drinking milk or water, having their bum changed or getting dressed and ill give you a million pound.
(If any of you have one of these magic babies I'm skint I don't have a million quid suck on it!)
It's completely normal for them to have a screaming fit when they're over tired, or when your doing something with them they don't want to do, don't feel guilty!
Babies will always test you!

Exactly, only a few hours ago she had a meltdown because I tried to take her dress off of her before she got in the paddling pool - outrageous of me

He did come down and apologise and say he didn’t mean it to criticise me, he was just surprised at how much she kicked off. Welcome to my world hun!

 

[Crazycatlady18]

What does everyone dress their babies in for nursery on hot days? I have no idea what to put her in x

 

[cupcake_face]

Put baby down for her 2pm nap. Mr G came in with me and watched her fling herself all over the place in her cot, chuck her dummy out 100 times, cry, roll around again - so I was like see, this is what I’m dealing with twice a day.

She did get herself into a bit of a state crying, and I normally when that happens I just shhh her and she does calm down and go to sleep. Today she cried for longer (because she was massively overtired and her teeth are bothering her). He went into KW mode and basically said he doesn’t think she should be going to sleep like that, she’s crying too much, it’s not normal (for a baby ) and she’s obviously distressed. I don’t know what else he expects me to do, he said “isn’t leaving her to cry it out dangerous” and I was like she’s not being left to cry it out, I’m sat next to her patting her. But equally she does need to nap, he doesn’t understand that she doesn’t just fall asleep like she used to and she’s (supposedly) in a routine that I want to try and stick to.

She has fallen asleep but now I feel bad. He’s not here every day, it’s me doing it all, but now I’m wondering if I am doing it wrong and she should just be able to be put down to nap without all the dramas

Baby Cupcake fights absolutely every single nap with every fibre of his being I’ve tried extending wake windows, shortening them, different settling methods and eventually decided that none of it makes a scrap of difference and he probably just has major FOMO. So solidarity
Try not to pay too much attention to Mr Goss, like you said you are the person who does this day in, day out - maybe you could suggest he could do all naps on a weekend if he’s such an expert

 

[Borntorun]

What does everyone dress their babies in for nursery on hot days? I have no idea what to put her in x

Either just a baby vest, or shorts and T-shirt. As little as you can get away with, but ours won’t let them be in just a nappy

 

[Toffeebythesea]

We are on week 11 and he still wakes every 2 (very occasionally) 3 hours for milk, send help I've tried everything!

 

[Rxt156]

We are on week 11 and he still wakes every 2 (very occasionally) 3 hours for milk, send help I've tried everything!

That is quite normal I think!