I had my debrief at the hospital. It was me, my partner, a very senior obstetrician and a senior midwife. The dr asked me to run through my version of events and answered all questions I had. She explained their reasons for their actions (they weren’t defensive), they were very apologetic (I think they’re bricking it incase I take it further) and did actually help provide me with information and answers I didn’t know. I did get quite emotional but they were very understanding.
I asked to see my notes and I was allowed to read them at my own pace in a private room while I was feeding my baby. As an FYI, if you request to see your notes, they’re obliged to let you read them! Reading them helped make me piece things together and understand what happened as I was totally out of it at the time. Turns out my c-section under general anaesthetic was 3 minutes from start to finish (8:35 put under GA, 8:37 cut me open, 8:38 baby out) which I didn’t know!
I should also be hearing the response back from PALS about my complaint re: horrific postnatal care I received soon. The midwife there asked for further clarification about some of my complaints so they could tell off the right people.
One thing that pissed me off though is that they said the old ‘at least he’s here and healthy that’s all that matters’ and I said he’s probably my first and last and the dr was like ‘oh no! Have as many as you can! He brings you such joy it would be a shame not to have more! Give it a year!’ She also said she would personally do my next csection and make sure everything is ok.
Glad it went as well as it could and you feel abit better now knowing what happened and why.I had my debrief at the hospital. It was me, my partner, a very senior obstetrician and a senior midwife. The dr asked me to run through my version of events and answered all questions I had. She explained their reasons for their actions (they weren’t defensive), they were very apologetic (I think they’re bricking it incase I take it further) and did actually help provide me with information and answers I didn’t know. I did get quite emotional but they were very understanding.
I asked to see my notes and I was allowed to read them at my own pace in a private room while I was feeding my baby. As an FYI, if you request to see your notes, they’re obliged to let you read them! Reading them helped make me piece things together and understand what happened as I was totally out of it at the time. Turns out my c-section under general anaesthetic was 3 minutes from start to finish (8:35 put under GA, 8:37 cut me open, 8:38 baby out) which I didn’t know!
I should also be hearing the response back from PALS about my complaint re: horrific postnatal care I received soon. The midwife there asked for further clarification about some of my complaints so they could tell off the right people.
One thing that pissed me off though is that they said the old ‘at least he’s here and healthy that’s all that matters’ and I said he’s probably my first and last and the dr was like ‘oh no! Have as many as you can! He brings you such joy it would be a shame not to have more! Give it a year!’ She also said she would personally do my next csection and make sure everything is ok.
Thats crazy about your section being 3 minutes long, is that the norm? I had a GA C-section and would be interested to know how long mine was.
I finally have my birth reflections appointment booked in for September.
I can’t believe they said about you having another during a debrief of your traumatic birth! Can’t make it up I know you’ve said on previous posts that you won’t be having anymore children. It sucks that we have to justify why we don’t want anymore children!
I think when people say this though, they think they are being nice. (could think of better things to say tbh)
This isn’t baby related but my dad had the same kind of situation recently. He had his leg amputated last year & someone he used to work said ‘ah well, at least it’s not cancer & your not dying’
Fair but stupid comment because his life has now completely changed, he is now disabled & he is mourning the loss of his limb, his old life, his independence..it’s just not right completely trivialising a persons situation as there is something or someone in a worse position.
How you feel matters too, be it mentally & physically. Can you imagine if they just sent you home an hour after you had your baby, after your section? Not caring that you can’t walk, sit up, go to the toilet etc, it’s alright cause the baby is fine? It wouldn’t happen.
I hope you can close the book now on your experience and enjoy your beautiful little baby.