Hey
I can relate so much to this subject. My mum is not a nice person at all. My dad is amazing but gets very defensive if I bring up anything about my mum. My mum got arrested for drink driving last year at 2pm in the afternoon and was 4 times over the legal limit. My mum has always been a secret alcoholic and me and brother used to find vodka bottles which had been drunk then filled with water to make them look unopened. My brother could do know wrong when we were young. I got so much abuse from my mum. I got insulted constantly and told I was “mentally challenged”. Also in one argument when unknown at the time she was having alcohol withdrawal told me I was fat and that my clothes were looked awful ( I was a size 8-10) I would get hit and my hair pulled. When I had my second son my mum was never free to come and take my eldest child. Looking back she obviously had been drinking and couldn’t drive. Even after getting arrested she was still ordered vodka in her Tesco delivery in secret and my brother found her passed out in the garden. He is getting married soon and I know he is looking forward to getting away from home to his own place. I could go on and on. I get so jealous of people who have amazing relationships with their mum and go out and get coffee/shopping/spa etc. I’ve never done that with my mum. Anytime I see her or speak to her I come away with worse anxiety. My son has autism and she thinks it’s because of my lack of discipline. He also eats a very beige diet and she always makes remarks that it’s ridiculous and I’m making a rod for my own back. My dad and my in laws are thankfully amazing! I know this sounds awful but if my mum wasn’t here I honestly feel like I would have this anxiety weight of my shoulders. I feel like she’s not my mum she’s more like a stranger to me. I can’t trust her with my kids although I do still call over now and again to visit her and it’s not fair on my dad to not see my boys. I have no female siblings/cousins etc and not many friends. I feel like why did I have to have this mum that gets on like this, I’m constantly worried about her drinking which is still denies. I feel like I’m looking after a child. She’s lost her licence until December 2021 but I’m dreading her getting it back. Sorry just needed a rant and so glad to see I’m not alone. My mental health and anxiety has been awful since the drink driving of my mum. I’m back on anti depressants and even my husband has noticed my behaviour change. Hoping things get better in time. Lots of love and hugs to you all
I can relate so much to this subject. My mum is not a nice person at all. My dad is amazing but gets very defensive if I bring up anything about my mum. My mum got arrested for drink driving last year at 2pm in the afternoon and was 4 times over the legal limit. My mum has always been a secret alcoholic and me and brother used to find vodka bottles which had been drunk then filled with water to make them look unopened. My brother could do know wrong when we were young. I got so much abuse from my mum. I got insulted constantly and told I was “mentally challenged”. Also in one argument when unknown at the time she was having alcohol withdrawal told me I was fat and that my clothes were looked awful ( I was a size 8-10) I would get hit and my hair pulled. When I had my second son my mum was never free to come and take my eldest child. Looking back she obviously had been drinking and couldn’t drive. Even after getting arrested she was still ordered vodka in her Tesco delivery in secret and my brother found her passed out in the garden. He is getting married soon and I know he is looking forward to getting away from home to his own place. I could go on and on. I get so jealous of people who have amazing relationships with their mum and go out and get coffee/shopping/spa etc. I’ve never done that with my mum. Anytime I see her or speak to her I come away with worse anxiety. My son has autism and she thinks it’s because of my lack of discipline. He also eats a very beige diet and she always makes remarks that it’s ridiculous and I’m making a rod for my own back. My dad and my in laws are thankfully amazing! I know this sounds awful but if my mum wasn’t here I honestly feel like I would have this anxiety weight of my shoulders. I feel like she’s not my mum she’s more like a stranger to me. I can’t trust her with my kids although I do still call over now and again to visit her and it’s not fair on my dad to not see my boys. I have no female siblings/cousins etc and not many friends. I feel like why did I have to have this mum that gets on like this, I’m constantly worried about her drinking which is still denies. I feel like I’m looking after a child. She’s lost her licence until December 2021 but I’m dreading her getting it back. Sorry just needed a rant and so glad to see I’m not alone. My mental health and anxiety has been awful since the drink driving of my mum. I’m back on anti depressants and even my husband has noticed my behaviour change. Hoping things get better in time. Lots of love and hugs to you all