Keep enforcing your boundaries. Tell her you no longer want any more comments on your weight or you will not be contacting her.I am a size 14 but my BMI means I am obese because I’m like 5’0.
Recently I was misdiagnosed with cancer and then re diagnosed with 2 chronic health issues. More recently I’ve had an unexplained seizure.
My mother has repeatedly made comments about my weight. She then said my “bad” diet probably caused the seizure. Obviously this is not the case and the specialist said that’s got nothing to do with it.
A family wedding is coming up and she’s made multiple suggestions that I maybe should lose weight. I’ve been on steroids for the chronic health issues which led me to gain a stone.
Last night she sent me the link to the saxenda weight loss injections and said “don’t take this the wrong way but why don’t you do this?”.
I haven’t suggested to her that I want to lose weight.
I have commented that the steroids made me gain weight but I even joked that I’d rather be a bit rounder and alive than skinny and dead.
I’m 37 and it’s really getting to me. If I retaliate/make a comment back it causes a world war and I cannot be bothered with the drama.
My husband wanted to send her a message last night but I told him not to.
Sorry, I really just needed to rant. I’m so sick of it.
My weight has always gone up and down. I've been everything from a 10-18. Even when I was heavier. I didn't even feel like it was a problem personally, but comments from my own mother made me feel much worse and more self conscious. It was another comment on a forum but it went like "women are allowed to take up space in the world." You don't have to be a set size.