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Thank you soo much ! Thatās very sweet. I wish you a wonderful day everyday.@alwaysdreaming hope you have a lovely day tomorrow![]()
Sounds exactly like my mother and golden child. I feel I'm better off without them too, even though it took me a while to come to terms with it all. I'm glad you're doing well.@Nadia Vulvokov you open that wine lovely, am sorry to hear what you're all going through cos of tomorrow, so glad Ive had no contact for years, I was always the one trying to do something nice for her, picking a nice pressie etc, now when I look back, I wonder why I bothered, as she only believes the crap which comes out of her golden child's mouth who is a nasty vindictive liar, but he could never do wrong in her eyes, am so much better off without them
Well done for setting those boundaries. It's so hard when those who are supposed to love us unconditionally are so selfish and hurtful.I've seemed to fallen out with my mother again since Thursday. Cried about it yesterday.
My father called me today and she was in the background and I said to him I didn't want to talk to her as he passed the phone to her.
I was called a witch. Told to get lost. Called illegitimate.
All of this started because I told her that she "needed to take care of her own health from now on". She was originally angry at my younger sister who is 22 because she wasn't faffing about after her making her tea or giving her breakfast. My sister's has been working12 hour shifts. She is still so surprised that nobody wants to spend time with her when she is so hurtful.
I blocked her on Whatsapp. I still talk to my father but told him today that I would no longer be doing calls only texts.
I seriously hate the hype around mother's day. I'm not going to send her anything and happily going to spend the money on a friend.
I'm so sorry. Sending you love and strength.Thank you. I still didnāt cave despite the messages from my brother.
Iām the one hurting her now.
I don't resent my brother but she has treated us differently.
I spent today crying over this too. Duck itās been three days. Thereās a reason Iāve been in therapy for almost five years now. Iām just so sad.
oh man I can definitely empathise with this. Your brother means well and is probably being guilted himself but heās becoming a flying monkey.Thank you. I still didnāt cave despite the messages from my brother.
Iām the one hurting her now.
I don't resent my brother but she has treated us differently.
I spent today crying over this too. Duck itās been three days. Thereās a reason Iāve been in therapy for almost five years now. Iām just so sad.
I'm so sorry. This is awful. If you feel happy in your skin then that's all that should matter to a loving mother. Sounds like you have a supportive partner which is great. Please do not bow down to pressure from her to lose weight. You're a fully grown woman and it's none of her business. If you tried to talk to her about how it makes you feel would she listen? Do you have much contact with her? Backing off and minimising contact can work wonders for you MH.I am a size 14 but my BMI means I am obese because Iām like 5ā0.
Recently I was misdiagnosed with cancer and then re diagnosed with 2 chronic health issues. More recently Iāve had an unexplained seizure.
My mother has repeatedly made comments about my weight. She then said my ābadā diet probably caused the seizure. Obviously this is not the case and the specialist said thatās got nothing to do with it.
A family wedding is coming up and sheās made multiple suggestions that I maybe should lose weight. Iāve been on steroids for the chronic health issues which led me to gain a stone.
Last night she sent me the link to the saxenda weight loss injections and said ādonāt take this the wrong way but why donāt you do this?ā.
I havenāt suggested to her that I want to lose weight.
I have commented that the steroids made me gain weight but I even joked that Iād rather be a bit rounder and alive than skinny and dead.
Iām 37 and itās really getting to me. If I retaliate/make a comment back it causes a world war and I cannot be bothered with the drama.
My husband wanted to send her a message last night but I told him not to.
Sorry, I really just needed to rant. Iām so sick of it.
Just popping in to say Iām so sorry youāre dealing with thatHi all
Been lurking here on and off, I hope itās ok to just write down how Iām feeling. Iāve had another upsetting interaction with my narcissistic dad today, he always comes when my husband is at work and Iām alone.
Heās demanding money from me (I got an inheritance from a relative and he genuinely feels entitled to some of it). He makes me feel like tit to try to manipulate me into doing what he wants. I have a husband and children, heās not my priority but when moneys involved he acts like he is. Heās not poor, he owns a nice house in an expensive part of the country plus a few rentals, I rent my house.
Having an interview with a boss who doesnāt like you describes perfectly how he makes me feel. I actually told him today how my last interaction with him made me feel, his response was that he canāt make me feel a certain way, thatās all on me! I got a load of other abuse and he told me that he basically doesnāt like me. He also walked out of my house in a tantrum slamming the door because I didnāt say what he wanted to hear.
I know Iām going to go no contact, I canāt cope with this anymore. I know this is a bit tmi so I apologise, but I actually got diarrhoea from the stress from our last interaction. Thatās how he makes me feel. Iām just gutted really, but heāll never change. I canāt imagine making either of my kids feel like this.
Any advice for going no contact? Thank you
Thank youJust popping in to say Iām so sorry youāre dealing with thatyouāre not alone here, and I hope itās helped a small part to share your experience. Thereās lots of like-minded people here, Sending love xx
Glad to hear youāll be sticking around - honestly, this thread has so many brilliant people on it and itās such a comfort to know so many of us share similar experiencesThank youI really appreciate that. And yes even just sharing that does help in a way.
I will definitely be sticking around, in a weird way knowing others are going through similar makes me feel like Iām not so alone with this. My husband is incredible and so supportive, but he can be a little frustrating as he always thinks just appealing to my dads better side will make him see sense. But narcissists donāt have a better side do they!
Me tooI did everything for 40 years, ran myself into the ground but a similar thing with my own child was my walk away point. Never had any contact again and never went to the funeral. No regrets beyond the realisation that I didnāt matter, ever.