Mumsnet #2

[heretoreaditall2019]

It’s a very strange place. They’re either earning a 6 figure income, or claiming every benefit under the sun (nothing wrong with that btw). There are no average wage earners who are getting by ‘just ok’. It goes from one extreme to the other depending on the topic. For example, if someone starts a thread saying anyone over 80 should have to have to retake their driving test or have a medical exam, you’ll get lots of people who apparently know 101 year olds who are single handedly building drystone walls as a hobby then go to nightclubs til 6 in the morning, 4 days a week and still have 20/20 vision. But if anyone suggests state pension age should rise by a couple of years, the thread will be full of 45 year olds who are already starting with arthritis and need help getting to the toilet because they feel elderly.
(Note: I don’t hold strong views on those topics as they’re just examples but there’s no chance of any kind of calm, nuanced debate on there)

I think they’ve got a step parenting forum that I ended up down through a AIBU? Where conveniently every resident mum is labelled as a retroactive gold digger, clearly out for the 15% that equates to a couple of hundred quid a month from these perfectly average men these new partners seem to think are HNWIs? And the critiques of how resident mum spends her money as if she’s gonna have anything left out of it after covering a growing child’s food and clothing and wrap around care It’s wild, this has made me miss them actually I’m gonna go take a look and see what some poor 24/7 resident mum dared buy this month. New SHOES??? For WINTER???

 

[ElectileDysfunction]

Not read the full thread or its predecessor as I don't have time, but my experience, for what it's worth....

Overall i quite liked mumsnet back when I bothered with it. If you go in the right forums there is excellent solidarity and advice during pregnancy and I got some great reassurance when I had to go and be induced. There are also some genuinely funny posters on there. I do remember crying with laughter at one thread about what's the most ridiculous thing your toddler has ever had a tantrum about (honestly some of the answers were first rate, particularly the woman who described pulling her toddler home after she wouldn't let him jump in a stagnant pond who described him aa hanging off her arm flailing "like a monkey on acid"). I do get how the relentless middle class-ness of it can get annoying though.

For me the most annoying thing was/is the militant parents of ASD/LD children, who insist on jumping on every single post where someone complains about someone else's badly behaved children being badly behaved in a public place, with the parents doing nothing about it , and hijack it to say "but what if the child has special needs!" and somehow turn it into an attack on the original poster for being intolerant of non NT children. Honestly some of them manage to do it even where there are no signs whatsoever that the kid in question is ASD/non NT and where it is quite obvious from the original post that the issue was the parenting (or lack of), not the child! It's like some of them can't accept that sometimes kids are just badly behaved and soft parenting is the problem...

 

[sixdinnersid83]

Yeah and a lot of them reappear when they’re mentioned on the ‘which posters do you miss?’ licky arse threads. HullyGully was another MN Royalty bitch who regularly pops up on those threads, which makes me wonder if they just hang about waiting to be name checked.

I despised her. How tragic to live your life through mumsnet popularity. <waves to Franny>

 

[bellinibobble]

Love this post and one of the replies
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For all the shite on there, every so often pure gold turns up this is what keeps me lurking

 

[CyanideKiss]

There's quite a few on the site who are clearly very unwell. The level of sustained hatred they manage to maintain over long periods of time and across several boards is just not healthy and is very worrying. It often scares me that these people are out there, queuing behind you in Sainsbury's or sat at the next table in Starbucks. And they're seriously disturbed.

Then factor in how quite a large proportion of vicious posts are made quite late in the evening at
the weekends and you suspect they have a drink problem on top.

 

[Kaylon8083]

I’m sure some Mumsnetters found Chris Whitty, Dominic Cummings and Matt Hancock attractive during the various lockdowns.

 

[Peachsquish]

Just about to read a thread about someone whose planning to either sleep in a tent or put her teens in a tent due to elderly relatives staying over Xmas.

 

[FrannyGallops]

They also keep the ones that are blatantly made up and are just a creative writing exercise for the OP. ‘Rainy puddles’ being the most obvious, but once you suss them out you notice them all the time. Probably one person under several sock puppet accounts.

Yeah I was wondering if the possible cannabis farm thread was a troll. Has all the hallmarks. Posts OP about neighbours heating their flat really high, drip feeds about a foreign teenager living there and blinds being shut all day, then despite all the good advice to report it, just keeps coming back to the thread saying they can’t do anything because xyz.

 

[tortfeasor]

@Lechat I can just imagine how that poster would act in a face-to-face situation and as you said as if the staff at John Lewis won’t be busy enough already! I think everybody should work at least one Christmas in retail. I did part time hours at my nearest branch of M&S one year and that was bad enough! i was overjoyed that my last day was Christmas Eve. It sounds to me like it was pretty obvious that the discount code was only supposed to work for YSL products.

As for the advice/suggestions threads on how to resolve things like, for example, a problem with a purchase or declining an invite, they are hilarious to read. I remember reading through one thread on there where in the middle of all of these disastrous suggestions for how to completely enflame the situation solve the problem one voice of sanity tried to suggest that you can catch more flies with honey and was promptly rounded on.

 

[AManWalksDownTheStreet]

If it wasn’t for Mumsnet I wouldn’t have found this site! I lurk there but I find it to be quite vicious!

Same, I had never heard of Tattle before someone on Mumsnet was posting about how dreadful it was and I then had a look out of curiosity . Every time someone talks about it on there it must bring Tattle new traffic LOL

 

[Theshamedame]

Just had a mooch on MN for the first time in years as I'm trying to adopt next year after losing a baby this year, I can't put myself through the fear of another pregancy and I don't really want to start discussing this with mates yet as they're probably going to be quite negative about it.
Anyway what a fucking cesspit of transphobic cunts with literally nothing but stupid fucking opinions.
I'll stick to tattle, the fresh hell am I going to go there again.

 

[FrannyGallops]

My has very recently been a victim of a nursery biting, it’s entirely her fault she loves “feeding” her peers and one of them didn’t take too kindly to it and bit, drawing blood.

It was honestly the most dramatised thing by the nursery I was doing an uncomfortable laugh cos it was like satire - they assured me they’d done an extensive review of CCTV footage and seen “the incident” from multiple angles and could confirm it was [redacted] and his one sharp tooth. She’s been sterilised and bandaged and is making a full recovery sat on [redacted]’s lap having some cuddles. Now please sign the accident form and take a copy for your records, I was actually speechless by the whole thing and thought am I bad mum for not really caring she’s been bitten by another child?! Maybe I’m a mug who’s missed my chance to make the Times rich list 2021? I’ll be giving Mark Lewis a call now

I hope you at least phoned 101 to log it with the police

 

[Brigitjonesbuttcheek]

I had similar. Posted a story that admittedly sounded ridiculous, but I was genuine and it ruined my life. They called troll, absolutely hounded me and I got my thread deleted in the end.

There are just so many trolls and so many people troll hunting, that any situation slightly out of the norm is shut down. The thing I posted (I'm not gonna go into it as it's over now) was pretty unusual. But not unbelievable and I wasn't asking for money or anything, really just an ear and some reassurance.

There are just so many trolls and so many people troll hunting, that any situation slightly out of the norm is shut down. The thing I posted (I'm not gonna go into it as it's over now) was pretty unusual. But not unbelievable and I wasn't asking for money or anything, really just an ear and some reassurance.

And to add, I've see so many clearly made up threads that stand. Which makes me think there is some sort of agenda. The thing I posted about was a very sensitive topic. Where as if you make up shit about peeping neighbours or weird bedroom habits, your thread can stay because it gets the right sort of attention.

 

[sixdinnersid83]

There also used to be a poster called ‘expatinscotland’ who used the fact that she was a bereaved parent as an excuse to be astonishingly rude to other posters and if anyone dared challenge her you’d be victim of a pile on because ‘don’t you know her child died’. Well yes actually and that’s awful, but it doesn’t give her a right to be so fucking nasty to other people which I saw her do on many occasions.

I have noticed that the serial fantasist LeQueen is back on doing her interminably boring show off stories. I know she was banned but she must have grovelled to be allowed back. She lives in a dream world.

 

[Pinkii]

"It clearly shows that he has absolutely no respect whatsoever for you. Would he do it in front of his boss, his mother or your DC's teacher? He can control himself around everyone else OP, but clearly doesn't respect your boundaries or you as a person. LTB, but first make sure your ducks are in a row and that you have access to everything because all money is family money you know. You need to visit a solicitor and DEMAND your free half hour. You're ENTITLED to it. They HAVE to give it to you. You should get a cleaner in too and as your OP farting has clearly caused you to have PTSD, you need a nice spa break too, oh and I'd log it with 101 just in case"

also just to be safe OP, log it with 101

 

[Miss polar]

Interesting but slightly disturbing thread about a mum who is sad about her daughter not wanting to come back from a visit to her neighbours. There’s something really off about the thread, and the neighbours sound really sus, but the op is having none of it!

 

[Miss polar]

…..or saying girl instead of woman

Lol. I remember a thread a couple of years back asking about recommendations for a girls holiday. The poster said what their budget was, where they had narrowed it down to, and was asking if anyone had stayed in a particular hotel.

The very first response was.- are you all 12?? You are women not girls far to many people on there have too much time on their hands

 

[nothanksbabes]

I opened a Covid thread this morning and the OP was rambling on about how she thinks Omicron could be a Covid-AIDS mutation because she'd read that Omicron was first found in someone who had HIV.

These people are nutters.

A new variant of a virus found in an immunosuppressed person prone to disease first? Shocker!

They're batshit

 

[TheDragonWithAFlagon]

Exactly this! Obviously if a man is genuinely abusive and the woman is in danger then leaving is the sensible option, but like you say it’s not always black and white and when children and joint finances are involved it’s not always that easy.

Let's not forget that if a woman has been too scared, isolated and vulnerable to leave when her children were younger, her adult daughter is then told it's all her mother's fault the abuse happened because she didn't leave and the daughter should completely cut her off for the rest of her life (usually whilst maintaining a relationship with the abusive man as 'he's a good granddad' buys the daughter and grandchildren things).

"Excited after a game of football, high on adrenaline and wearing shorts"

Was my favourite line from her post

With a description like that, I'd be asking for a lift...but the likelihood is that the 'DH' in question looks more like

than he does

 

[Gym&Tonic]

The husbands probably spent most of days locked down either hiding in their home offices or cycling while the Mumsnetters were stood at the window with binoculars and making notes about Number 11 going out for their second walk of the day.

Or wanting to the phone the police because their neighbours were sat in their back garden.