Mumsnet #2

[Pinkii]

just seen a thread on someone saying her ‘elderlym (70 yrs old) neighbour has asked her out, she hasn’t given much detail so yes it can come across a bit creepy depending on the situation, eg if she is 50/60 and has spent a lot of time with him, feeling can develop, but if she is 20 then yes its creepy lol but..

can someone enlighten me, they all seem to think all men are ‘entitled, narcissistic and creepy’ etc don’t get me wrong, yes there are men like that but not every single man has a motive

If a woman has a thread on a guy asking her out in whatever sort of environment, you’re always bound to get a response saying ‘that’s creepy op’

if a guy at works asks her out, he is overstepping work boundaries, if a guy see’s you in a supermarket and starts up a conversation and asks you out, its creepy. if it’s a guy in a bar ‘run OP, red flags, guys who chat up girls In a bar are trouble, and Online dating is just guys looking for a quick shag

so please enlighten me people of tattle, in what situation is a guy allowed to ask a woman out without being creepy!? How are people genuinely meant to be meet their partners if all situations of getting to dating is ‘a red flag’

 

[YoungHollywood]

I don’t know what I find most amusing, the pure venom from the posters on that board or The posters who don’t like being told they are being unreasonable.

A lot of unhinged people post in that section

How they post and ask “aibu?”, and then spend the next few pages arguing with everyone who says yes! Don’t bloody ask then!

 

[emerald]

I honestly need to stop lurking on there for amusement because it actually makes me so miserable. So many of them are absolutely void of joy; it's soul destroying to read. And to I think I can be a miserable cow sometimes, I think I must be like Pollyanna compared to the average mumsnetter.

 

[Satisfying Click]

On a thread where someone calls Louboutins "common" and brags of having several pairs but now not knowing what to do with them, someone else responded with: "Only on Mumsnet would shoes worth hundreds be seen as common." We do like a bit of self-awareness

Probably can't afford the real thing, furiously typing on their laptops whilst staring wistfully at their heels with red painted on the soles

 

[TheDragonWithAFlagon]

I thought it was gold standard advice that if your completely pushed to the edge of what you can cope with then place the baby/little one in a safe place like a crib or play pen and step away until your calm/feel ok

It is.

It's only Mumsnet (and abusive spouses/exes and gossipy neighbours/Mother in laws) who pile on to any woman doing that with emotive screeching about how the poor wee mite is permanently damaged by being put down and how no real mother could be so evil and unloving as to go into the next room and sob with frustration, fear, helplessness and exhaustion.


The rest of the world is somewhat more realistic in that whilst you can't lock them in the cupboard under the stairs, it's perfectly fine to try and protect your sanity for five minutes.

 

[Kaylon8083]

I can imagine someone asking “Did you mean to be so rude?” and someone saying yes

I also hate the phrase “Are you on glue?” Glue sniffing was so 90s.

I also hate “No is a complete sentence”.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I can't get over a current post about winter coats and posters coolly replying they spend hundreds on a goose parka or whatever. And another poster basically saying how disgusting it is that other people shop in Primark buying crap that will fall apart in a year and it's bad for the environment or whatever. Err, not everyone has a fucking choice. I certainly can't afford to drop hundreds on a coat, and there are tonnes of people worse off than me.

They don’t live in the real world. Whenever someone asks for fashion tips they will always suggest the usual suspects ‘Mint Velvet, Whistles, Hobbs, Reiss’ etc not realising that they are way out of most people’s price range, and personally I’d rather wear a Primark coat than one stuffed full of goose of duck down because they are very cruel and not ethical at all. Just recently there was a thread from a woman who was struggling financially and wanted some cheap and easy meal ideas. Although in fairness they did get a fair bit of good advice, some them seriously suggested dishes containing stuff like Ham hock, Parmesan cheese, olive oil, balsamic vinegar etc.. This was before I was banned so I posted a link to a fantastic Facebook group called ‘Feed Your Family for £1’! suggested looking for yellow sticker meals after 7pm in the main supermarkets and shopping in places like Iceland, Farmfoods, Home Bargains, B&M etc. It was about six pages in and not one other poster had suggested that any of that. They are so unaware of their middle class privilege it’s unreal.

 

[EmilyChambers]

There's a post on the "Omicron found in the UK" thread from a poster blaming the pandemic on globalisation and how she wants to go back to a "smaller hassle free world of less international travel". Probably posted by a late 50s/early 60s mum who's already had a lifetime of holidaying abroad and doesn't mind denying the youth the same experiences just because she's "over it"

The ones who think forgein travel should he abolished are always the one who had travelled abroad from an early age and seen most places. They can't comprehend others havent been in that position .

Theres a woman at work who is mid 30's and she travelled round Spain and France as a teen on her gap year, taught skiing for a season in canada, family holidays to Amercia, middle east etc, lived abroad in various countries for 5 years and thinks foreign travel and holidays are uneccessary

 

[nothanksbabes]

I'm in my early 30s and beginning the process of adopting an older (at least 8-10 years old) child. I don't doubt he or she will be hideously embarrassed by me but I'm not going to start dressing "sensibly" just because I became a mum, thank you Mumsnet

There's a thread at the moment "obsolete fashion rules you still keep" and some people are so snotty about the most trivial things (wearing black with a colour other than white or "bitter chocolate" - do you mean dark brown? Or mixing silver and gold jewellery) And bitchy comments about women they think look chavvy and/or too overweight to wear something. We can't all be yummy mummies you know

Black and dark brown sounds fucking atrocious. They think they're fucking country casuals/modern day Sloane Rangers and they're all boring BHS. No wonder their husbands are always fucking their PA.

 

[Insomiaflamingo]

Aw, that’s actually really lovely!

They’re so quick with the accusations of cheating on there.

‘My DH has lost one of his socks and we can’t find it anywhere’
‘It’s the other woman who’s messing with your mind, OP. Get your ducks in a row!’

‘I asked DH to take the bins out but he forgot’
‘LTB! Does he have another woman? He’s probably preoccupied with her and couldn’t concentrate’

‘My DH woke up this morning and breathed’
‘HE’S CHEATING!!’

Dont forget to have a spa day while planning how to LTB

 

[YoungHollywood]

Just to add to the amount of trolls on there - you can’t get any info on a poster without paying their subscription! So you can’t see if a poster is new, has posted before etc. Although of course the name change never helped with that. Anyone can log on as anyone posting whatever and wherever there and you have no idea what they have posted before or any idea how long they have been a member of the site. It’s like they want as many trolls as possible tbh

 

[Yel]

It’s the amount they charge for partnerships that really baffles me. Sure, it’s got a large audience but the ads they create are so bad it’s painful.

Yep, Mumsnet pretty much is an influencer that sells themselves to brands. Wasn't it a 6 figure deal for things like having a Gordon's gin emjoi and a Cadburys chocolate bar emoji? As if those and their other content actually sold any more stuff. Similar their lucrative deals with Lidl and the crappy content they made on their barely seen by anyone channels and blog. They've been successful at hoodwinking brands into thinking they're influential.

 

[Sunlifeover50]

Possibly controversial so I’m sorry if I offend anyone but I’m absolutely staggered by how many times I see “LTB”. I know some people will absolutely leave a relationship if they feel a line has been crossed and they have every single right to do so but sometimes couples try to work things out first especially if they have children and they should be completely supported in their choice if both parties are capable of moving on and living a good life together. I know couples who have a had things happen in their relationship that would definitely get a LTB on MN but they’ve really worked at their relationship and made it work. Obviously this doesn’t work in every scenario but life is very rarely black and white.

 

[SpindleWhorl]

The postman ringing the doorbell at 7am thread made me laugh. I KNEW it would blow up immediately with them all flexing about how early they get up and how everyone should be up by 3am in order to be a valued member of society. But then whenever someone posts a AIBU to have a lazy duvet day with snacks and movies, they always fall over themselves to say oh yes you MUST. You deserve it, make sure you stay in bed all day!

I saw that thread, tbh I have a bit of a crush on my postman and if he rang the doorbell at 7am getting me out of bed, I would go down as scantily clad as I could get away with

 

[Five hundred dogs]

I saw someone once told they could make money by buying old mirrors at boot fairs, using chalk paint on the frames and selling them on as shabby chic masterpieces . If you’re broke you’re not going to have the time or money to be farting around upcylcing mirrors .

 

[Kaylon8083]

I made the mistake of reading the Covid Board yesterday and it felt like I’d been in a time warp and transported back to 2020 with some of the replies regarding Christmas.

I think some of them on there are:

A) Mentally Unwell/Have Severe Health Anxiety
B) Trolls
C) Government Shills

There isn’t any middle ground on that board either - you’re either a mask loving lockdown lover or a anti vaxxing conspiracy theorist.

I agree that there’s a mob mentality on there.

 

[doctordoctor]

As a pp said, they all say the exact same phrases! ducks in a row, a DH problem, ’lots to unpack’ etc. They recommend counselling for EVERYTHING! you always have to go to a counsellor to unpack things…doesn’t anyone have any kind of resilience at all? Do we really need to spend endless hours talking about ourselves to a therapist? (Disclaimer: if you need therapy, I don’t mean you) they’d never, ever do or say any of the things they tell others to do! I especially love the ones who come on with some story eg ‘I really disIike my sister! she’s always hated me‘ blah blah blah, a whole list of terrible things she’s done to her, ‘should I send her a birthday card, she hasn’t sent me one for 40 years?’ 10 pages of being told not to bother, sister sound awful ‘oh thanks! I expected to be told I was horrible!’ No you didn’t!! That’s a lie! You just wanted to be told ‘you sound lovely op!’

 

[Kaylon8083]

I suspect some are disappointed this year because last year they didn’t have to travel to or entertain the in laws and were happy in their little bubble and this year people are making up for last year so a lot more expectations for them to host and travel.

If Mumsnetters want Christmas alone, they need to be honest and tell their relatives this. Although they act all gobby on Mumsnet (their safe space), I suspect they go along with it and don’t speak up and then whinge about it online. They could have had a quiet Christmas any year. They didn’t need a pandemic or the government to do it for them. All it takes is for them to use their words.

 

[Hunsgraveyard]

Can we just focus on the important thing here please?

Cosmo and Prudence

I swear they are all the weird hybrid of Hyacinth Bouquet and the cast of Motherland.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I’m having a genuine, not uncommon, situation with my boyfriend’s child (and the child’s mother) and need advice and was toying with going over there to ask but you lot have scared me. I’ll suffer in silence

You are the step parent so over on mumsnet land it doesn’t matter why you say it or do it will be your fault. Step parents, and in particular step mothers, are the devil incarnate.