She goes on about his journey & his invisible needs etc but she isn’t real about life with a ND child. Birthdays and holidays can be so traumatic; all out of routine loads of new things, so much to process and cope with. If you’re going to go on about it then be real, if he struggles on flights share what strategies you use, if birthdays need to be kept almost the same as every other day then say that, if you limit presents to 1 or 2 so he isn’t overwhelmed then say. But she hints that he is neurodiverse but then makes out that it’s life as normal & thats simply not realistic.