Two different scenarios... what happened at the Oscars can happen.Personally I think lashing out at a partner is downright abuse and indicates a lot more going on behind the scenes/a look into someone's true personality... Lashing out at a partner is a choice. Two wildly different scenario's at play here and mel trying to chalk her violent outburst as "it happens" or drawing similarities between what happened at the Oscars and her own behaviours ain't it or again, blaming alcohol as she has done so many times now is wrong and deliberatly absolving herself of any wrongdoing.It can happen. An example of giving someone in front of you a slap from an emotive place as a knee-jerk reaction can happen but it's how you both deal with it moving forward that matters - and the person who is the giver of the violence has SO MUCH work to do and shouldn't explain it away. Her excuse of "drink made me do it" without looking any deeper than that is a massive red flag.