Melanie Murphy #11 me neck, me back, I'm a hypochondriac

[mindlessness]

Oh no guyyysss, maybe we’re merely misdirecting our anger? Such is the internet after all

A simple ‘I don’t feel informed enough on this issue to speak with confidence, here’s some charities doing good work if you would like to donate’ would have been sufficient from Mel. The defensiveness in all these comments just makes her seem callous.

 

[Sazb64]

"It's not going to change anything over there".....

Oh boy. The absolute ignorance. No one is asking her to pick a side and go over and fight. It's called using your voice Smelanie. If she didn't want to talk about it she should have kept her mouth shut completely, and not shared any info at all. Much like she did with the mother and baby homes (an issue closer to home she didn't care about)

 

[awakenotwoke]

She just points it out I’d say because she made a whole song and dance about not drinking that she would have to answer loads of questions about it. Lucy Moon got a lot of comments when she started drinking again.

I’m yet to meet a person who is a nasty drunk who wasn’t genuinely nasty deep down. She can be as sober as she wants, she’s still bitter and miserable.

I personally know someone that is a completely different person when they drink really nasty so they don’t drink and are normal without it. Mel is just a self-centred witch .

 

[kalechips]

Much like she did with the mother and baby homes (an issue closer to home she didn't care about)

Now that we know her stance on 'sexually choosy women' and general performative feminism, in hindsight I'm not surprised she didn't ever talk about this. She probably had very little empathy, if any at all.

 

[Dearreader]

Haven't been on this thread in a while. Did I miss any more hilarious outbursts from Tomas? He is more entertaining than Mel these days tbh

He's such a JOkeR youse goise am well jealous of Melanie

He's also kicked off making comparisons between aviation and penny's (Primark) got a wiff of a sexist backhand there.

If his hair transplant doesn't take fully, he will 100% blame the government, no doubt.

 

[Chinese_whispers]

He's such a JOkeR youse goise am well jealous of Melanie

He's also kicked off making comparisons between aviation and penny's (Primark) got a wiff of a sexist backhand there.

If his hair transplant doesn't take fully, he will 100% blame the government, no doubt.

My god he’s an awful eejet isn’t he?

 

[Sazb64]

My god he’s an awful eejet isn’t he?

You're very sweet with your words @Chinese_whispers, mine would be a bit more colourful

 

[RafaelaGoltsman]

Why suddenly I remember our 'martyr' Melanie

 

[Catdog091]

Why suddenly I remember our 'martyr' Melanie

Poor sod lol

Why suddenly I remember our 'martyr' Melanie

Thing is though, if Melanie was being proactive with the baby, putting her time into creating fun activities or getting him out and about I don't think anyone would mention how unproductive she is with other aspects of her life. She's already said she won't be bothering with buying him toys, so how else is he meant to keep entertained.

All I've seen is her shutting him in the darkness and breast feeding him or trailing Thomas out with her for the occasional walk with the boombox attached to the pushchair.

 

[RafaelaGoltsman]

Poor sod lol


Thing is though, if Melanie was being proactive with the baby, putting her time into creating fun activities or getting him out and about I don't think anyone would mention how unproductive she is with other aspects of her life. She's already said she won't be bothering with buying him toys, so how else is he meant to keep entertained.

All I've seen is her shutting him in the darkness and breast feeding him or trailing Thomas out with her for the occasional walk with the boombox attached to the pushchair.

Couldn't agree more!

And I feel like Melanie is just using her baby as an excuse for her not to do household chores.
For instances:
*She can't leave the baby with others for long period of time.
*That she feels guilty everytime she needs to leave the baby in another room with Thomas and she could hear Milo's laughter

These dramas just to justify her laziness.

Ok Mel, let's see once you have your second, third ,fourth child

 

[Chinese_whispers]

Poor sod lol


Thing is though, if Melanie was being proactive with the baby, putting her time into creating fun activities or getting him out and about I don't think anyone would mention how unproductive she is with other aspects of her life. She's already said she won't be bothering with buying him toys, so how else is he meant to keep entertained.

All I've seen is her shutting him in the darkness and breast feeding him or trailing Thomas out with her for the occasional walk with the boombox attached to the pushchair.

She’s only not buying him toys because they’re both tighter than a flys arse and won’t spend the money. Kids toys are expensive and I hate every single one that my son owns but he loves them. They’re so odd.

(Mildly personal, soz.) I split with my sons dad because he was supposed to be the stay at home parent but his idea of that was to do a few dishes and wipe down a counter so I still had to take care of everything else while working full time. He used the baby as an excuse to be lazy and Melanie gives me MAJOR lazy vibes the same as him. It has to be annoying for Thomas. I was fit to be tied most days.

 

[Catdog091]

She’s only not buying him toys because they’re both tighter than a flys arse and won’t spend the money. Kids toys are expensive and I hate every single one that my son owns but he loves them. They’re so odd.

(Mildly personal, soz.) I split with my sons dad because he was supposed to be the stay at home parent but his idea of that was to do a few dishes and wipe down a counter so I still had to take care of everything else while working full time. He used the baby as an excuse to be lazy and Melanie gives me MAJOR lazy vibes the same as him. It has to be annoying for Thomas. I was fit to be tied most days.

Ooo I've not heard that one I say 'tighter than a ducks arse' but yeah you're right they are. They spend their money on themselves rather than the baby.

I'm sorry about your break up. That's crap x

 

[kalechips]

She’s only not buying him toys because they’re both tighter than a flys arse and won’t spend the money. Kids toys are expensive and I hate every single one that my son owns but he loves them. They’re so odd.

(Mildly personal, soz.) I split with my sons dad because he was supposed to be the stay at home parent but his idea of that was to do a few dishes and wipe down a counter so I still had to take care of everything else while working full time. He used the baby as an excuse to be lazy and Melanie gives me MAJOR lazy vibes the same as him. It has to be annoying for Thomas. I was fit to be tied most days.

So sorry you went through that, you absolutely deserve better. I hope you're holding up okay

 

[starryeyed10]

Jesus who wouldn't buy toys for their kids

 

[Chinese_whispers]

So sorry you went through that, you absolutely deserve better. I hope you're holding up okay

Thank you 10x busier than I was but definitely worth it. Just highlighting similarities that’s all. We all have stuff x

 

[kalechips]

Jesus who wouldn't buy toys for their kids

I'm not a parent but aren't toys and play time super crucial for a baby's development?

 

[justwannaseethepictures]

I'm not a parent but aren't toys and play time super crucial for a baby's development?

I'm a teacher and can confirm that toys and playtime is vital, not only for a child's emotional and cognitive development, but also for their physical development. Babies and children need to hold toys to strengthen their fine motor skills, and need to play for social development. Not buying children toys is damaging to them. You would think someone with an 'education degree' like Melanie would know that

 

[Dearreader]

I'm not a parent but aren't toys and play time super crucial for a baby's development?

Yep it's a huge part of helping babies and children make sense of the world around them, helping them to re-enact situations around them and assist to them to use their imagination, process new information and scenarios in their life. It also assists a child with socialising and sharing with their peers.

Now Melanie might think that giving a child pots and pans and a chopping board is enough to spark an imagination but it's not.

Dolls and house for example help a child act out those roles - the responsibility of taking care of a home, dolls and babies - help a child learn empathy by caring for and nurturing them, they then go on to bring these learned behaviours into the real world with real people.
Even language and play time are a huge factor in children's development as they socialize more during play time with peers, their scenarios and stories become more complex and imaginative. Toys are also a huge part in helping children discuss/have an outlet with traumatic or fearful experiences.

Simply put children need more than pots and chopping boards for stimulation. A child cannot make sense/re-enact parental figures and the roles within society via a chopping board.

Melanie's really going for- "my baby is not like other babies, he doesn't need toys, he's imaginative all on his own" which is not the attitude to have and will cause an impact if she doesn't buck up.

 

[Chinese_whispers]

I'm not a parent but aren't toys and play time super crucial for a baby's development?

I can understand it in the way of what constitutes as a toy and how much enjoyment they get from it. My son doesn’t have a lot of toys but what he does have he uses to death. We just asked people to get him clothes for his birthday instead. But as people have highlighted it’s so important for them to have toys to play and interact with. A chopping board isn’t going to sing The Wheels On The Bus to him if he presses a certain button.

I always thought rattles were a load of shite and didn’t buy one at the beginning. The PHN ate me for it because it teaches the baby How to hold something and gives stimulation and incentive to move their arms around when they realize it makes noise.

I thought she was all about her research?

 

[Dearreader]

I can understand it in the way of what constitutes as a toy and how much enjoyment they get from it. My son doesn’t have a lot of toys but what he does have he uses to death. We just asked people to get him clothes for his birthday instead. But as people have highlighted it’s so important for them to have toys to play and interact with. A chopping board isn’t going to sing The Wheels On The Bus to him if he presses a certain button.

I always thought rattles were a load of shite and didn’t buy one at the beginning. The PHN ate me for it because it teaches the baby How to hold something and gives stimulation and incentive to move their arms around when they realize it makes noise.

I thought she was all about her research?

You said there that your child doesn't have a lot of toys but the ones he has he uses to death. This is a great point. You do not have to break bank buying everything in Smyth's or toyworld!

It's crazy isn't it what we are adults deem as unimportant can play such a big role in children's development.

As a side note- the picture Melanie posted with the baby full on chomping down on a chopping board... might as well let him lick a toilet bowl, it's cleaner.

When I done my degree moons ago we had to play with toys and use our imagination to create storylines. We all thought it was lame at the time until the end of the lecture when we were told the reasoning. Scenarios a child acts out via play can also keep parents and teachers informed about their wellbeing.

For example, a case study we had to analyse involved a child in preschool playing with dolls and complaining of being hungry and how mommy was sleepy all the time... this caused safeguarding concerns with the teacher who then followed protocols which led to the discovery that the mother was a heroin addict and the child was severely neglected and placed in the care of grandparents. Toys are the portal into a child's mind.