"Omg being an influencer is such hard work. Literally always working, don't have time for anything. This week is so busy and hectic"
*haves breakfast in bed at 10.30 on a week day*
*haves breakfast in bed at 10.30 on a week day*
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How about she takes Roxie for a walk in stead of bumming around?
Right?!
I don't mean to be all like "work work work you lazy bish" but my pet hate is influencers pretending their work is comparable to being employed full time. I'm self-employed but I'm so aware of the privilege that gives me with regards to flexibility and a good work/life balance that I'm always conscious to not document it too much and to never brag about it. I've been in jobs I hate that I've had to drag myself to every monday-friday and it's not fun to open Instagram and posts like hers be the first thing you see.
People like Maddie need to atleast acknowledge and seem grateful for the life their viewers have afforded them, and not post photos of themselves lazing around in bed at 10.30am and still complain about how hard their lives are.
Very well said and I think it's wonderful that you are doing this [being considerate]. It's honestly awful to open IG and see an influencer bump around and bragging about it when you are slaving away. And it's easy to say: just be self-employed or "just be your own boss" "work for it" blabla. But that's not easy and not an option for everybody. Imagine if we all were self-employed lol, the world would be a disaster. And not everybody wants it.
I think you are a good person and it's nice to see someone understanding what it brings them in terms of fexibility. My brother is also self-employed and it gives him, too, a lot of freedom. Like the other day he accompanied me to the hospital half the day, which is something i'm insanely grateful for but we both acknowledge and understand that without him having his own company he would never have been able to. Doesn't mean, of course, you don't have to put the work in. Of course (goes without saying), he still had to work the evening in stead but he doesn't mind things like that, because he enjoys the flexbility, just like you say.
Maddie, and many other influencers, really don't understand the insane amount of luxury and priviledge they have that most people do not have or can not afford. And that is what it is, but both bragging AND complaining about it (my work is sooo hard you guys, but also look at me lazing around in bed all morning!!) is just sooo tone-deaf.
Thank you for that. I am sorry you are a victim of bullying, I wish you strength and patience to heal.
You're right, it is quite sad social media doesn't have better control over bullying and horrible disparaging comments. Instagram has more options than it used to, but it's still far from enough.
I've always been pro calling out bullying comments with the username of the commenter, when most influencers don't do that, but that's because I think once you start bullying someone, you don't deserve to hide away (even though the username is already a way to hide of course). But I didn't know people had been doxxed from a bullying comment. How on earth do people even find their details? It's scary.
YT does have full control over "bad" words ...
Maddie can block any word on the planet she doesn't want written in her comments but she chooses not to,
then throws the dummy out when they appear
Thank you, it’s taken a while but I’m definitely way better with it now than I was. I know so many people go through the same though, and they aren’t as lucky to get to this point, so I feel lucky to be in my position.
It really is scary, things like IP address (this lie that influencers spread explained here) and hacking into people’s profiles is so easy to do nowadays. You only need one person who takes it too far to put someone in danger, which is why I personally don’t believe in putting people’s usernames out into the ether for people to find.
I do understand your point of view though, I suppose everyone has differing opinions on how to deal with things. Perhaps because I did deal with bullying and the only way I personally could get people to stop was to stop engaging and ignore it, that’s skewed my view on it more so in that direction. I do believe she should just block words she doesn’t want to hear as that’s some protection she has, and block anyone who messages her directly or anything else, but she doesn’t do that and I find that strange. It does make it seem like she’s doing it for engagement rather than anything else.
Another hour long wardrobe declutter video just showed up on my homepage.
She's really lost the plot eh
THANK YOU for saying this!
Truly, this means so so much to me, more than I can express.I am severely ill. I am homebound, in a lot of pain and bed-ridden about 90% of the day and pretty much always alone. I don't want to go into the details (and please don't pity me, I am learning to accept it and sharing it is part of my journey) but it's really a rotten way to live. When I first fell ill I got so many people like this "oh I wish I could rest all day" and "are you still happily resting at home? i wish I could do that", "still nicely at home?". Yeah it's nice being at home WHEN IT'S NICE. And when you feel healthy, happy and can do this or rest up and it's because you want it. Not because you freaking sick. It's so incredibly insensitive and it's so hurtful. I would LOVE to trade places with someone who is HAPPY to be sick. Like PLEASE take my place, I would love to go back to work and have an actual life in stead of living like a plant on a shelf (no offense to plants, they are my main company during the day ).
Thank you, really. People can be so horribly insensitive, it's really hurtful and painful to read / hear.
).Thank you, really. People can be so horribly insensitive, it's really hurtful and painful to read / hear.
Just wanted to send some solidarity as someone who's also quite unwell and doesn't get to leave the house that often (and if I do I need help doing it so can't be alone, or go for long
), have had to give my driving licence back to the DVLA because aspects of my condition now make it unsafe to drive (which obviously I wouldn't even want to if I were going to be a risk to others but it does take away a lot of independence).I desperately miss going out to work, socialising, seeing the world rather than my bloody bed every day in pain or in tears about that pain. I'm a similar age to Maddie and it is galling to see that she can't appreciate her life at the best of times being so well off, in that gorgeous house with family support locally, a lovely dog etc - let alone to sentimentalise a brief period of mild illness so insensitively. There are people who get it, and those are the ones who matter. Her opinion really doesn't and actually if anything it says a lot more about how unhappy she must feel in her life if there is fun and relaxation to be had only on a sick day.
Aagh. That video about her garden & vulnerability. I've a few words for Maddy. Get a life. Honestly while she says it's a first world problem and infers it's not a profound sadness but it obviously is since she's mentioned that garden dozens of times. I don't know this but I wonder if her difficulty with trades people stretches beyond the usual probs we all encounter and is, in fact, their reaction to her demands. I perceive her as incredibly bossy, entitled and demanding. She has a lovely home, in a lovely area, is married (yeah, I know, he wouldn't be my choice either), has family around her, nice clothes etc but so often still chosen to focus on what she doesn't have. Doing up a house fan take years but seems Mads just can't wait and wants it done yesterday. I don't know why I watch her since she is soooo annoying.
Thank you all for your support and thank you @boopthatnose for sharing your story and for being so vulnerable as well truly means so much to me and it really made me feel less alone in all this, thank you
Back on current topic: About maddie wearing wool and her rushing into things/being very demanding: I think this is a big issue with a lot of long-time influencers. They got used to getting what they wanted from young age and they never learned to work hard and to grind. For them it's the normal and the standard, they have no idea what the real world is like out there. People hype them up from early on and that does things with your brain and personality. If people always kiss your ass and you are in high demand, a lot of these people start to think of themselves are VIPs and get cocky. It's the same with Maddie and so many other influencers. That is why they are probably a nightmare to work with because they feel superior to others. But also when they get something new (like a house etc.) they want everything done click-click-click because they are not used to waiting and being patient, like the rest of us. Most of us have to save, wait and do things in spare time, so we are used to not always getting what we want IMMEDIATELY. Which is fine, we do not have rush, we can take our time to do things just to our liking, or waiting till we have enough savings.
They have never learned to appreciate building up to something and working towards it at a slow pace. They are too used to what they want is what they will and SHALL get, no matter what.
This is why so much is going wrong with the house.
truly means so much to me and it really made me feel less alone in all this, thank you Back on current topic: About maddie wearing wool and her rushing into things/being very demanding: I think this is a big issue with a lot of long-time influencers. They got used to getting what they wanted from young age and they never learned to work hard and to grind. For them it's the normal and the standard, they have no idea what the real world is like out there. People hype them up from early on and that does things with your brain and personality. If people always kiss your ass and you are in high demand, a lot of these people start to think of themselves are VIPs and get cocky. It's the same with Maddie and so many other influencers. That is why they are probably a nightmare to work with because they feel superior to others. But also when they get something new (like a house etc.) they want everything done click-click-click because they are not used to waiting and being patient, like the rest of us. Most of us have to save, wait and do things in spare time, so we are used to not always getting what we want IMMEDIATELY. Which is fine, we do not have rush, we can take our time to do things just to our liking, or waiting till we have enough savings.
They have never learned to appreciate building up to something and working towards it at a slow pace. They are too used to what they want is what they will and SHALL get, no matter what.
This is why so much is going wrong with the house.
Yeah it's a bit like kids who become pop stars at 17 and become totally insufferable because they've never lived in the real worldThank you all for your support and thank you @boopthatnose for sharing your story and for being so vulnerable as well
Back on current topic: About maddie wearing wool and her rushing into things/being very demanding: I think this is a big issue with a lot of long-time influencers. They got used to getting what they wanted from young age and they never learned to work hard and to grind. For them it's the normal and the standard, they have no idea what the real world is like out there. People hype them up from early on and that does things with your brain and personality. If people always kiss your ass and you are in high demand, a lot of these people start to think of themselves are VIPs and get cocky. It's the same with Maddie and so many other influencers. That is why they are probably a nightmare to work with because they feel superior to others. But also when they get something new (like a house etc.) they want everything done click-click-click because they are not used to waiting and being patient, like the rest of us. Most of us have to save, wait and do things in spare time, so we are used to not always getting what we want IMMEDIATELY. Which is fine, we do not have rush, we can take our time to do things just to our liking, or waiting till we have enough savings.
They have never learned to appreciate building up to something and working towards it at a slow pace. They are too used to what they want is what they will and SHALL get, no matter what.
This is why so much is going wrong with the house.
I think I remember she said she worked a job after uni and left after a few months because she didn't like it, then got a part time job at her mum's business. She's really never known work/ financial hardship and has had a very easy ride work-wise. There's a few YouTubers I watch who've had/ have average jobs and you can tell the difference in their gratitude and appreciation of being able to make money from something they enjoy.
Sorry, WHAT? So she wears wool and “second hand” leather but refuses to buy compost if it contains animal MANURE??
YES!!!!!! I said the same thing.
I get the distinct impression that she's snobby when talking to tradesmen and is unrealistic with regards to her expectations about timescales, cost and what is actually possible. I bet a few have ditched her at the first opportunity.
Totally. She seems like she might be the sort who virtually hang over them making demands.