I get the impression that Louise is in a “who loves/misses Darcy the most?” competition, except she’s the only one competing. It’s fine to miss your child, but I dread to think what kind of pressure it puts on Darcy to have a mum who comes off as borderline codependent and openly admits to vicariously living through you. Louise used to do the whole “it’s so hard being a single mum” shtick when she only had to look after Darcy half the time, yet now she’s completely changed her tune.
i think you're absolutely right. it's totally understandable that Louise misses Darcy, and that she doesn't want her to feel excluded in terms of the activities she could potentially do with Pearl while she's away, but Louise takes it way too far with the endless SM posts dedicated to how much she misses Darcy and their joyful reunions etc, along with the daily "I miss you Darcy" reminders in her stories. she has definitely got herself caught up in a competition with Matt and Devon, but it's a competition of which she is the sole competitor.
whether Darcy sees her stories when she's with Matt or not, Louise obviously thinks she does - because all the little reminders about how miserable and incomplete she feels without her eldest daughter are definitely aimed at Darcy. she doesn't seem to realise - or simply doesn't care - the impact that could have on Darcy, in terms of her feeling guilty for enjoying time with her dad while her mother sits miserably at home. it's not fair to put that kind of pressure on a child, as though she is responsible for Louise's emotions, and for making her happy.
and there has definitely been a dramatic increase - certainly in terms of the SM posts - about how much she misses Darcy when she's with Matt - she's had joint custody of Darcy for years, yet suddenly she seems to feel threatened - or Darcy has recently been allowed an IG account, and Louise is using it as a way to send her messages. regardless, i know Louise compares Darcy and Pearl constantly, and makes it clear she prefers Darcy's more placid, compliant and agreeable personality - i doubt she's even considered that Darcy is a people pleaser and so willing to sacrifice her own wants and needs to make Louise happy - such as posing for endless tutu photos etc - because she doesn't want to cause any confrontation and because she feels responsible for Louise's emotions, and fears upsetting her mum as she feels to blame if Louise is sad? sadly, she's setting Darcy up to be walked all over and taken advantage of because she's scared of upsetting people, and has been made to feel responsible for other people's emotions from such a young age. Pearl may naturally be more energetic, wild and carefree - but equally, Darcy's behaviour may well have been affected by the divorce of her parents and the way she's been placed in a situation where she's treated very differently in two different households, desperately wants to fit into both, and please both her parents without rocking the boat and potentially causing arguments or conflict between her parents. she must feel torn, and it won't be helping the situation that Louise perceives Matt and Devon as rivals with whom she needs to compete for Darcy's affection in her desperation to be crowned "favourite parent". that's a hell of a lot ot dump on an eleven year old child.
she's not a child actor or celebrity so it's very bizarre that she's being told to pose for strangers.