Lisa My_solo_journey_to_Mom #14 Lisa will weep when she can’t sell sleep to the sheep!

[fortycoats]

She needs to get out and live life. I would love if she sent them to a crèche or childminders so they can experience other children bright lights, fresh air, play areas and lots of stimulation. Lisa has utterly fallen off from real life since having them. Regardless of money or living with parents she should not have left job she needed it for herself. For socialisation and for her head away from the girls genuinely is very healthy for the vast majority of us mothers. She’s fully engrossed in their every movement sometimes as our children grow a step away at times is better for mum and baby

I was only thinking recently separation anxiety is a two way thing when you leave each other initially to return to work. It’s hard and mums in particular feel so much guilt. But then one day it dawns on you that your kid(s) are leading their own little lives, meeting new people, learning new skills etc.

I do lots indoors and outdoors with my son on the weekends but it doesn’t compare to the amount of activities and social interaction he gets at Creche. It’s fantastic for him. And we recently had a class meet up over the weekend in the Summer.. it was lovely to see the way the kids interacted. And little rows would start but the kids were well able to resolve them without adult input.

And while most of us dream of winning the lotto and retiring early, work has a lot of advantages too in terms of social interaction, problem solving, upskilling etc And most importantly, it pays for our mortgages and bills etc. I think genuinely most of us on this page would only love to see Lisa get on top of things. Bit by bit. Those kids won’t need her in a few short yrs. It’ll be all about school, friends and activities.

 

[Ioweyou]

Wtf spinach pancakes Lisa the child isn't sharing she giving it back

 

[Beddy]

She needs to get out and live life. I would love if she sent them to a crèche or childminders so they can experience other children bright lights, fresh air, play areas and lots of stimulation. Lisa has utterly fallen off from real life since having them. Regardless of money or living with parents she should not have left job she needed it for herself. For socialisation and for her head away from the girls genuinely is very healthy for the vast majority of us mothers. She’s fully engrossed in their every movement sometimes as our children grow a step away at times is better for mum and baby

I don’t think it’s a case of her not wanting to be away from them or being too engrossed in them. She’s well able to get away from them if it’s to go out eating or drinking or to relax in a hotel by herself. She just doesn’t want to get up off her lazy behind and drive into limerick and work that’s all that’s wrong with her

 

[Darkside]

Wtf spinach pancakes Lisa the child isn't sharing she giving it back

Roaring

 

[Lollipops23]

How on earth do they put up with her in the house? She’s taken over the place and has it in a heap.

 

[PandoraSkye]

Lisa not at LJs event?

All the Cork huns there, even Kim from remaining hopeful!

 

[fortycoats]

Lisa not at LJs event?

All the Cork huns there, even Kim from remaining hopeful!

Kim following Lisa’s lead.. had a pj day with the baby and showing off the dirty vest top delighted with life. We’ll give her a pass for one day but Lisa shouldn’t be anyone’s role model!

 

[Tulipsfromamsterdam]

She has some neck on her to just decide to have two babies and bring them in on top of the rest of the family and take over every area of the house.
Why doesn’t she take a flat and move out and really rear them on her own, seeing as she chose to be a solo mum. Leave her parents to themselves ffs besides tripping over high chairs and her takin over the full sofa 24/7.
That green eggy shite she feeds them must bung those kids up: it’s disgusting lookin food for first thing in the morning.

 

[wineandcrackers]

Lisa not at LJs event?

All the Cork huns there, even Kim from remaining hopeful!

Who’s LJ?

 

[PandoraSkye]

Who’s LJ?

Lisa Jordan, her launch event for her Luna Christmas bundles….basically a load of notions..

 

[sureitmustbetrue]

She has some neck on her to just decide to have two babies and bring them in on top of the rest of the family and take over every area of the house.
Why doesn’t she take a flat and move out and really rear them on her own, seeing as she chose to be a solo mum. Leave her parents to themselves ffs besides tripping over high chairs and her takin over the full sofa 24/7.
That green eggy shite she feeds them must bung those kids up: it’s disgusting lookin food for first thing in the morning.

Because she simply wont. I used to think it was becuase she can’t, she needs mammy for everything, washing cleaning rearing cooking shopping doctor visits but she chooses not to work as she chose to have two children. She chooses not to move out because she knows how handy she has it. If she wakes up late, she knows her live in nanny will just have the kids up. Who else can go off to SuperValu for a few hours or sit in their car listening to podcasts child less while being a single parent of twins? Lisa can. The way her life has turned out are the choices she has made herself so my empathy and sympathy is zero for her. Her parents need a shake up though, I initially felt sorry for them but after seen the wreck Lisa has become in the last year, they have enabled her and encouraged her! Has the conversation of, ur still sitting on the couch, not come up?? She’s on that couch since September 2021. Is she just melted into it now that her parents don’t see it? The mental health card is used so much by influencers and people who think because is the way she is now and choices they make, she must have PND or other health related issues. No- she’s just lazy and chooses not to do anything! It’s like when overweight influencers discover healthy eating and exercising can transform Ur life and ur weight, mentally and physically - yet the rest of the world knew this all along and just did it as normal without the fanfare!!

 

[ReturnmyRabbits]

Did she ever come on and say how she got on at the gestational diabetic review clinic? Is it normal to have a review for that a year after having a baby or in Lisas case twincesses.

I had GD and they recommend you get annual diabetes tests, but it can be done through your GP. I have had mine done through GP, but maybe they are able to see who doesn't follow up (shared database)? And then reach out to them?

 

[fortycoats]

I had GD and they recommend you get annual diabetes tests, but it can be done through your GP. I have had mine done through GP, but maybe they are able to see who doesn't follow up (shared database)? And then reach out to them?

Theres no shared database between GPs and hospitals. No shared database between the hse hospitals even aside from radiology.

I’d say she’s deemed high risk and was down for annual review with Endocrinology.

 

[daisydays]

Because she simply wont. I used to think it was becuase she can’t, she needs mammy for everything, washing cleaning rearing cooking shopping doctor visits but she chooses not to work as she chose to have two children. She chooses not to move out because she knows how handy she has it. If she wakes up late, she knows her live in nanny will just have the kids up. Who else can go off to SuperValu for a few hours or sit in their car listening to podcasts child less while being a single parent of twins? Lisa can. The way her life has turned out are the choices she has made herself so my empathy and sympathy is zero for her. Her parents need a shake up though, I initially felt sorry for them but after seen the wreck Lisa has become in the last year, they have enabled her and encouraged her! Has the conversation of, ur still sitting on the couch, not come up?? She’s on that couch since September 2021. Is she just melted into it now that her parents don’t see it? The mental health card is used so much by influencers and people who think because is the way she is now and choices they make, she must have PND or other health related issues. No- she’s just lazy and chooses not to do anything! It’s like when overweight influencers discover healthy eating and exercising can transform Ur life and ur weight, mentally and physically - yet the rest of the world knew this all along and just did it as normal without the fanfare!!

yes to all of this. Well put and well said

 

[stoplying]

Because she simply wont. I used to think it was becuase she can’t, she needs mammy for everything, washing cleaning rearing cooking shopping doctor visits but she chooses not to work as she chose to have two children. She chooses not to move out because she knows how handy she has it. If she wakes up late, she knows her live in nanny will just have the kids up. Who else can go off to SuperValu for a few hours or sit in their car listening to podcasts child less while being a single parent of twins? Lisa can. The way her life has turned out are the choices she has made herself so my empathy and sympathy is zero for her. Her parents need a shake up though, I initially felt sorry for them but after seen the wreck Lisa has become in the last year, they have enabled her and encouraged her! Has the conversation of, ur still sitting on the couch, not come up?? She’s on that couch since September 2021. Is she just melted into it now that her parents don’t see it? The mental health card is used so much by influencers and people who think because is the way she is now and choices they make, she must have PND or other health related issues. No- she’s just lazy and chooses not to do anything! It’s like when overweight influencers discover healthy eating and exercising can transform Ur life and ur weight, mentally and physically - yet the rest of the world knew this all along and just did it as normal without the fanfare!!

I agree with you but I’m glad for those little girls she’s at home look at the tit show she is with three other adults around I genuinely think they would be at risk if she was doing it unsupervised

 

[Lassie don't go home]

She's obsessed with shoving drugs up the kids arses. I've never had to do that with mine.

I have to my fecker won't swallow any oral meds

 

[Sweetnessandlight]

Suppositories are the business really. Even if just for the face my fella pulls when I stick one up

Anyway, glad she said today that she'd rather direct that follower to a trained professional for advice on medical issues. Most sensible thing she's ever said.

 

[Tinybops]

Suppositories are the business really. Even if just for the face my fella pulls when I stick one up

Anyway, glad she said today that she'd rather direct that follower to a trained professional for advice on medical issues. Most sensible thing she's ever said.

I was on the receiving end of an diafene suppository after my last baby 8 weeks ago, I don’t blame him it’s rough!!!!

 

[Justanothergirl123]

I was only thinking recently separation anxiety is a two way thing when you leave each other initially to return to work. It’s hard and mums in particular feel so much guilt. But then one day it dawns on you that your kid(s) are leading their own little lives, meeting new people, learning new skills etc.

I do lots indoors and outdoors with my son on the weekends but it doesn’t compare to the amount of activities and social interaction he gets at Creche. It’s fantastic for him. And we recently had a class meet up over the weekend in the Summer.. it was lovely to see the way the kids interacted. And little rows would start but the kids were well able to resolve them without adult input.

And while most of us dream of winning the lotto and retiring early, work has a lot of advantages too in terms of social interaction, problem solving, upskilling etc And most importantly, it pays for our mortgages and bills etc. I think genuinely most of us on this page would only love to see Lisa get on top of things. Bit by bit. Those kids won’t need her in a few short yrs. It’ll be all about school, friends and activities.

I’ve recently only returned to work after taking nearly a full 16 months off to spend quality time with my daughter. I am a single mother and I’m the only one providing for her. I am blessed to have so many family around me. For me returning to work took time as I cried the first 3 weeks as I felt extremely guilty leaving her but I’ve now realised I’m a way better mother because I’ve returned to work because I know what I’m doing is to provide for her and her future and also the days I have off are spent out with her at a park, soft play etc and we do so much more together now just me and her I feel it’s helped us both bond better and also look forward to bringing her places. Even though I’ve enjoyed having the 16 months off and loved seeing her grow from a newborn to a toddler I now realise how much I needed to go back as I have adult interaction all the time and also for my own mental health feel it has benefited me massively to have space away from her and also for her it gives her time away from me.

I agree with you but I’m glad for those little girls she’s at home look at the tit show she is with three other adults around I genuinely think they would be at risk if she was doing it unsupervised

I live at home and I am too a single parent but not by choice. My daughters dad has not seen her since June this year and it’s very difficult to get my head around but I just get on with it because you have to. My parents and family have been my life saver since I’ve had it couldn’t do more for me and I’ll be grateful. I don’t want to be at home but I have no choice as the housing crisis and also rent prices make it impossible for a single mother to move out. I can understand her in a way being at home because I’m in the same boat. But we’re me and Lisa differ is in many ways I do not expect someone else to look after my child because she’s my responsibility, I do all my own washing, cleaning etc and would never expect my parents to do anything like that for me. Lisa does not know the real struggles of being a single mother and she also has no idea how reality works.

 

[fortycoats]

I’ve recently only returned to work after taking nearly a full 16 months off to spend quality time with my daughter. I am a single mother and I’m the only one providing for her. I am blessed to have so many family around me. For me returning to work took time as I cried the first 3 weeks as I felt extremely guilty leaving her but I’ve now realised I’m a way better mother because I’ve returned to work because I know what I’m doing is to provide for her and her future and also the days I have off are spent out with her at a park, soft play etc and we do so much more together now just me and her I feel it’s helped us both bond better and also look forward to bringing her places. Even though I’ve enjoyed having the 16 months off and loved seeing her grow from a newborn to a toddler I now realise how much I needed to go back as I have adult interaction all the time and also for my own mental health feel it has benefited me massively to have space away from her and also for her it gives her time away from me.


I live at home and I am too a single parent but not by choice. My daughters dad has not seen her since June this year and it’s very difficult to get my head around but I just get on with it because you have to. My parents and family have been my life saver since I’ve had it couldn’t do more for me and I’ll be grateful. I don’t want to be at home but I have no choice as the housing crisis and also rent prices make it impossible for a single mother to move out. I can understand her in a way being at home because I’m in the same boat. But we’re me and Lisa differ is in many ways I do not expect someone else to look after my child because she’s my responsibility, I do all my own washing, cleaning etc and would never expect my parents to do anything like that for me. Lisa does not know the real struggles of being a single mother and she also has no idea how reality works.

Can we forget Lisa for a second.. I just want to tell you, you’re doing a great job! .

Whether we work for a company or work at home minding our kids, we are role models for our kids and despite your extremely tough circumstances, you are a fantastic role model for your little girl cos you get up and you do your best for her and for yourself every day. It’s great you have support but ultimately you make all the decisions and have all the responsibility and that’s A LOT. You may have some similarities to Lisa on paper but you lead very different lives. Your daughter is lucky to have you.

And regarding kids in creche/returning to work… I still have days where I feel guilty.. lots of them. And days when I have him when I still feel guilty and question myself. But when I stop and really think about it, I know he’s happy and loves Creche (most of the time )