may not go down well but it annoys me so much hearing upper class white people who move to other white countries and talk about it extensively. "omg i could never leave my friends and family behind!" consider the millions of people who willingly make the choice to do those things to give their children/ themselves a relatively easier life, in white countries that don't cater to non-white people. anna and lily are truly obnoxious.
This. The inability to recognize how easy it would be for her to move, how she speaks the lingua franca of our time and to act like it’s such a big deal in the year 2021, like we don’t have technology to connect us. The pandemic makes it scary to imagine being far from family, that’s the only exception I’ll give her, and maybe I’m being generous bc I haven’t seen my family in 3 years due to it. I’ve lived in 8 different countries and yes, it can be stressful, especially nowadays when moving a household. Long gone are the days when I could do it just by paying for an extra checked bag; we’re in shipping cargo and pet passport territory now
BUT I never take it for granted and feel a huge amount of guilt that I can move in this way - everybody documented, down to the freaking cat, with a service to safely move our belongings into a home that we’ve flown ahead to sign contracts on and have painted while we wait in a nice Airbnb.
In my last 2 countries, both of our cleaning women, who helped me pack and organize for the move, were undocumented. They came to these countries on buses, knowing they would stay illegally, not knowing when they would see their families again, but still taking that risk to make a better life for their families. They don’t want to live alone and scrub toilets, they do it because they have to, or their kids would have no hope of finishing school or their mothers having medical care as they are. (Interesting side note, they are on different continents, but both these families are matriarchal for 3 generations. All the men either died, dipped out or were domestic abusers and the women left.)
Lily is such an ignorant dick that she would totally act like moving to BE or NL would be such a trauma and hardship. Ipsos has US offices as well - but what’s more, everyone can be remote now! They could go anywhere! She is just so ENTITLED that she doesn’t understand the plight of economic migrants, and how any move she theoretically might make would be so easy in comparison. This is yet another example of her inability to recognize her privilege and not be a parochial twat.
There’s a lot of convo about the American mumfluencer Courtney Adamo, who is so annoying. She moved to Byron with her 5(!) kids. Without any special skills according to the AUS visa rubric, her family magically lives there now, while thousands of non-white, non-native English speakers are warehoused in immigrant camps offshore.
Being white, rich and an English speaker basically means any expat experience is an adventure. Lily is so myopic she doesn’t realize that. Anna might have a better grasp on that via her sister’s experience. Lily also doesn’t realize part of what makes London an incredible city is that it is a multi-cultural, globalized city full of millions who have survived international moves!
she should've kept her mouth shut about that because that really doesn't look great, Jesus Christ. I asked her about it but I don't expect a reply lol
Internet is making me question my choices of work, partnerships and family again, time to log off
