palmer
Chatty Member
Lily is such a narrow-minded, ignorant, and self-centered person. It's kind of mind-boggling the amount of shit she's said over the years on the internet--and she consistently fails to realize how bad it sounds?! She seems to think of herself as this modern, forward-thinking person but it's actually the complete opposite. It's painfully obvious she actually has very archaic, traditionalist views; looks down on anything foreign or anyone who doesn't live exactly the same way she does; and has no interest in anything that doesn't directly affect her or isn't directly relevant to her bubble. She has this condescending look on her face or tone in her voice whenever she's talking about things that are foreign to her.
She would never consider living abroad (or even in another city within England!) because she can't imagine for a second how anything could possibly be better than the one place she was born and raised in (even though she barely takes advantage of London at all, e.g. if her idea of an exciting place to go is Space NK at King's Cross then I think that says it all). She thinks her way of life is the superior way of life, period. She's lived such a sheltered existence, with so little personal development because she's never been challenged in any way. She has no curiosity about anything, no desire to ever shake things up or move any of her boundaries. She assumes the way her parents raised her has got to be the best so she replicates it, she assumes living in London (or rather, her own little area in North London) has got to be the best so she stays there--even though she's never even tried anything different so she wouldn't know! She just takes whatever she knows to be the right option.
She's resentful to anyone she knows who's moved abroad (Hannah, Keisha, etc.) because THEY have inconvenienced HER. She probably thinks they are selfish for "doing this" to their friends and family. She wouldn't ever consider how beneficial these moves might have been for her friends. I've moved abroad twice (left my home country 6 years ago and have lived in two different countries since) and I can't express the amount of growth I've gotten from it. It's been totally life-changing, challenging, rewarding, I could go on. All things I think Lily of all people could really learn from. It's been HARD of course but what I've gained from it is worth all the sacrifices I've had to make. I would 100% do it all over again and advise anyone to do the same. The way Lily talks about her friends who've decided to move abroad makes me think, imagine for one second if her kids wanted to move abroad? She wouldn't let them!!
She literally lives on the same street as her sister, and her other sister is also down the road. Their parents are in the same neighborhood. She can't even imagine living in a different area of London, away from them, let alone in a different city in the UK, let alone in a different country. She sounds like the least independent, most co-dependent person ever. She can't deal with not having her ENTIRE family around her at all times (she doesn't seem to care one bit about the fact that Rich is away from his family? they never seem to see his side of the family except for one weekend per year where they drive up!). She can't deal with Rich working full time or even working in the office part time, she needs him to be at home with her at all times. She literally lived with her parents and her boyfriend till she was 28. For someone who keeps going on about how her pregnancies have made her "lose her personality," she just doesn't seem like she's EVER had a personality of her own? She just lives the same old life as her parents and sisters did/do. They even have the same house! Her sister's house looks identical to hers. Her world is so tiny and narrow, it's scary.
The whole "our family challenges gender stereotypes" narrative she keeps trying to push also illustrates this contradiction between the way she views herself versus how conservative she really is. She thinks that just because she makes more money than her husband and he looks after their child for half the week, their household is somehow a model of feminism and wokeness. In reality, had she not lucked out with this Youtube career and instead been in an average office job, she would 100% expect Rich to bring in as much money as possible for them while she steps down and looks after the kids at home. She is the woman who refuses to do anything manual or anything that's considered "manly." Challenging gender stereotypes only interests her insofar as she gets to do less and put more burden on her husband's shoulders. It's nothing to do with ideals or principles, nothing to do with equality. It's just about her own little comfort and getting away with being even lazier than she already is.
She would never consider living abroad (or even in another city within England!) because she can't imagine for a second how anything could possibly be better than the one place she was born and raised in (even though she barely takes advantage of London at all, e.g. if her idea of an exciting place to go is Space NK at King's Cross then I think that says it all). She thinks her way of life is the superior way of life, period. She's lived such a sheltered existence, with so little personal development because she's never been challenged in any way. She has no curiosity about anything, no desire to ever shake things up or move any of her boundaries. She assumes the way her parents raised her has got to be the best so she replicates it, she assumes living in London (or rather, her own little area in North London) has got to be the best so she stays there--even though she's never even tried anything different so she wouldn't know! She just takes whatever she knows to be the right option.
She's resentful to anyone she knows who's moved abroad (Hannah, Keisha, etc.) because THEY have inconvenienced HER. She probably thinks they are selfish for "doing this" to their friends and family. She wouldn't ever consider how beneficial these moves might have been for her friends. I've moved abroad twice (left my home country 6 years ago and have lived in two different countries since) and I can't express the amount of growth I've gotten from it. It's been totally life-changing, challenging, rewarding, I could go on. All things I think Lily of all people could really learn from. It's been HARD of course but what I've gained from it is worth all the sacrifices I've had to make. I would 100% do it all over again and advise anyone to do the same. The way Lily talks about her friends who've decided to move abroad makes me think, imagine for one second if her kids wanted to move abroad? She wouldn't let them!!
She literally lives on the same street as her sister, and her other sister is also down the road. Their parents are in the same neighborhood. She can't even imagine living in a different area of London, away from them, let alone in a different city in the UK, let alone in a different country. She sounds like the least independent, most co-dependent person ever. She can't deal with not having her ENTIRE family around her at all times (she doesn't seem to care one bit about the fact that Rich is away from his family? they never seem to see his side of the family except for one weekend per year where they drive up!). She can't deal with Rich working full time or even working in the office part time, she needs him to be at home with her at all times. She literally lived with her parents and her boyfriend till she was 28. For someone who keeps going on about how her pregnancies have made her "lose her personality," she just doesn't seem like she's EVER had a personality of her own? She just lives the same old life as her parents and sisters did/do. They even have the same house! Her sister's house looks identical to hers. Her world is so tiny and narrow, it's scary.
The whole "our family challenges gender stereotypes" narrative she keeps trying to push also illustrates this contradiction between the way she views herself versus how conservative she really is. She thinks that just because she makes more money than her husband and he looks after their child for half the week, their household is somehow a model of feminism and wokeness. In reality, had she not lucked out with this Youtube career and instead been in an average office job, she would 100% expect Rich to bring in as much money as possible for them while she steps down and looks after the kids at home. She is the woman who refuses to do anything manual or anything that's considered "manly." Challenging gender stereotypes only interests her insofar as she gets to do less and put more burden on her husband's shoulders. It's nothing to do with ideals or principles, nothing to do with equality. It's just about her own little comfort and getting away with being even lazier than she already is.
