Not to defend Lily but I am on her side with preferring to stay near family and friends… some people just aren’t into the idea of living far away and that’s OK, I think? I like familiarity and the dread and anxiety of something happening to my parents and not being able to make it to them quickly (even though I know technically even on the other side of the world it’s only a day away by plane) would mean I would never be able to settle or enjoy myself. I have a life I love in my home city and I’m not interested in starting all over again. I have plenty of friends who have moved from the UK to all sorts of places and it seems exciting but not a life I choose for myself.
What I do think is/could be an issue for Lily is that she and Rich are clearly on different pages about this and he’s already away from his family’s base… those kind of things can build resentment.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it! And your reasoning is super solid. If the pandemic has taught us anything, it’s having friends and family close by is a huge blessing. I’m only three hours from my parents, but a border separates us, so I haven’t seen them in over a year. I feel so much empathy for those separated from families for even longer. Lily acts like she’s this woman of the world, with a huuuuge superiority complex (she is a London mum after all), but she refuses to be open minded when confronted with anything new or perceived by her as “different”. Instead of curiosity, she just exudes derision. And in that sense, she could benefit from having to go down to a government office in a country where she doesn’t speak the language to negotiate utilities or intermittent electricity or navigating public transit across a country packed into a van with 10 other people who don’t speak your language or eating food she’s not used to in order to show respect to her host.
Anyway, sorry about England losing and I hope any POCs in this thread are safe and getting the support you need post-loss.