Ok guys, it's been a while. But here it is- relevant Ninastar90 story time.
For the OGs you will know that I had my child when I was 16- they are now a teenager and things are good.
However, ExMrNinaStart90 left me when I was 18- with our child- for a 15 year old. (I've had to unpack this in therapy so let's keep it purely to MY FEELINGS AT THE TIME, if we can). I was broken and considered suicide. I attempted.
Because although outside- to most sane adults, our relationship was fucking insane anyway (I was 15 when we got together, him 19)- I had my heart set on us bringing up our child together. Being that family unit. I didn't have that growing up. I was having panic attacks and crying fits for 6 months after ExMrNS90left me. All I wanted was a 2 parent family at that point. It took me about 2 years to fully recover and just OWN myself again and realise how much more I was.
So I feel for Loz if this has happened. Because maybe, like me, she believed a family unit would happen even if you are 100% incompatible.
You live and learn.
I think the saddest thing is I was 15-18, Loz is 34-35.