As regards Fridays video, I can't get over how much she has taken over.
I know we need to take in to account social norms, age, personality and upbringing.
I married at 24 and my husband had inherited an 16thC Manor from his uncle. I knew this would be my home when we got engaged but I loved him and I loved history. Only 5 rooms were habitable. It was a nightmare. Anyway, I didn't like a lot of the ornaments and artworks. I appreciated them but they weren't my taste. It took almost 4 years and alcohol involved for me to tell him I hated them. So did he, so they were taken down and put away.
I always felt it was my home but I didn't feel I could take over and remove or change 100's of years of his family.