I think you are looking for:Not sure of the correct saying but something like “ for evil or bad things to happen, a good person just has to do nothing”. Something like that. And standing by while all this stuff is going on, nagging her is not enough, it doesn’t bring consequences. You are enabling if you help the addict avoid the consequences, like Boyson did with the car, t
SB with the driving and the kids , the family the kids the driving, and also paying her fines/ bills . I have an alcoholic friend I I’ve had to report her, let the police lift her, so she understands her actions have consequences. I’ve been guilt ridden doing it. She still looks to me as a friend as its my job not to blow smoke up her arse and make excuses for her. I’m so glad she understands that, and I’m really trying to help her. She’s much better at the minute.
'The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing.'
There is also a variation along the lines 'if you see malpractice at work and don't report it you become part of a cover up.'
There's no point discussing ethics with this clan.