The amount of food she feeds Olive per day is probably more than I eat in a day! I’ve been in (actual) calorie deficit, but even taking that into account - that’s a huge amount of food for just snacks for a 1 year old!! She seems to have no idea about portion control at all, which might explain why she’s been struggling so much with her own diet. She’s probably making a meal which says it’s 400 calories but serves 4 and is eating it all. She needs to do a LOT of learning regarding calories and portion sizes