I'm so very, very sorry for your losses.
My favourite Victoria work (other than the Requiem) is O Magnum Mysterium. A friend sung it at Notre Dame one Christmas - the acoustics were amazing, it was so dark, but then the voices start swirling around and then I could hear the effect of them being carried, swirling, upwards. Genius in the composition and utter genius in the acoustic engineering.
I love Renaissance polyphony. Not such a huge fan of the showboating in things like Spem in Allium, although I get the allusions. And Latin always lays itself open to shite humour playing on my being an utter oik and willfully misinterpreting the words. 'Can we do the lost ice cream song?' or 'Whales in the Onions?'.