Sending you lots of love @nothanksbabes and to anyone else struggling, for whatever reason, on this thread.It absolutely is complicated, and I often think about my friend in particular - like I said in my post, I actually don't think she can work. Not for the physiological reasons she says she can't, but I suspect she is so high conflict she is not capable of maintaining the sort of professional relationships required to hold down a job long term. Like Jack she has a superficial appeal and charm that will see her through the initial stages of whatever task she has to do, but it can't be maintained and although they're both cunts IMO, I'm not sure that anyone would choose the lives they have if they had the capacity for something else? I don't know what I'm trying to say - like Jack, my friend had many things handed to her (perfect marriage, family, husband who supported her) but she cheated and lied and manipulated and threw it away and that seems to be the only way she knows how to operate. Should she starve or be homeless because of that, and should her children? No, I don't think so, so as much as I harbour bitterness towards people like this (having had my life destroyed by them), I don't think that precludes them from basic humanity and support and I agree with you. My own mother was also a terrible human being, but that didn't mean me and my brothers should have suffered any more by being denied the basic means to exist.
I have, however, had a wine and I'm feeling generous. I'm struggling with my own severe trauma-related issues (my therapist grassed me up to the crisis team) and I'm lucky to have a great job where nobody notices if I disappear for a week in the midst of a breakdown, but I'm pretty much alone and live in constant fear of being found out and ending up homeless under a bridge. So I'm aware it can happen to anyone, I guess. And I'll stop rambling now. There but for the grace of God (or the universe, or whatever) go I, etc.
I love everyone's thoughtful replies in this thread.
I love the canal, even though I’ve not been here very long - yes we have a laugh at Jack’s antics, and the memes and photoshops are *chefs kiss*
But it’s also a place of support and helping one another. Of listening to the opinions of others and replying with respect ( see Jack! It CAN be done) without it resorting to an internet bunfight.
So to those of us finding live hard at the moment, keep going, keep fighting and know that the canal is here to cheer you up with a George Michael / Big Dave picture when you need it most
she could play herself, reading all the messages from her trolls, her stans, her land lady and her lovers. It would be great fiction!!
