I’m not - there’s far too many title threads coming up
Her reply is actually very revealing. A big part of undertaking therapy is acknowledging your flaws and learning to work with them and around them. That Jack sees suppress it and shove it the car boot as a solution speaks volumes and is probably the source of many of her problems. She's in total denial about who and what she is and until she learns to face up to it and find a way to cope she'll always be miserable and toxic.Absolutely this! Sorry if the formatting has gone weird, this is absolutely my aneurism and has prompted me to post at last.
I see a therapist every week who uses a bit of the transactional analysis school of thought to frame things. She has used the analogy of driving before, but in the context of TA it's the inner child who is driving at times. This inner child can be a bit of a dickhead, as children sometimes are, but no one should ever take the child and stick it in the boot as Jack has done in her Stan-like fantasy.
As you say, TCC, it's something that is part of you that needs to be managed. You have to softly, gently negotiate with this difficult part of yourself. Do a bit of coaxing, yet be firm! It's all about the adult part of yourself being able to step in to guide your actions and not allowing your impulsive, upset and damaged parts take over and do a chaos. Stuffing them in the boot will only kick chaos down the road and is frankly pretty cruel. You're meant to approach the dickhead part of yourself with empathy and understanding, not absue them further.
This reads to me like Jack has heard this analogy once and stopped listening halfway through. Instead of learning a new thing about treating herself with compassion to help heal her chaos, she probably started dreaming up a new analogy where she could come across as a badass who dominantes the dickhead in her brain. Oh dear.
Anyway thank you all for being really funny and insightful bunch, have been lurking for so long, it's nice to say hi finally.
Look, I know we aren't supposed to police each others speech on here, but could I please ask the fraus who have been here a long time to spare a thought for us newcomers.2019, The Guardian. Apologies to all Italians (again) for what she’s doing to your cuisine. Sage and onion breadcrumbs in tomatoes is not a ‘two ingredient recipe’ whether you call it pappa al pomodoro, panzanella, or hideous slop. SHE IS A DANGER TO FOOD!!!
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But he’s a good landlord. Does she realise that she’s just confirmed she comes from multi generational wealth?