A 1000 mile round trip in 24hrs also gives the lie to her autistic pretentions too. I’m really “high-functioning” (yes I dislike the functioning labels but accept them for ease of others’ understanding) and can plan journeys with my kids and all that. But just thinking about all the steps involved and all the changes and transitions in a trip to the Netherlands followed by a return home followed by an immediate trip to Scotland is giving me butterflies. Even if I was with someone I trusted to have my back the whole way in case anything went wrong. Especially a trip where I am giving a presentation to a professional/expert audience. I would have a total shutdown if I tried to do all that travelling - and again, I’m a high-functioning autistic woman, just about able to balance kids and a proper job. (It is very hard, and it means I don’t do a huge amount of other stuff except see close friends, but I’m proud of myself anyway.)
But yeah I and every other actually diagnosed autistic person I know would need some quiet peaceful time to recuperate in between all those transitions. It’s not normal to be that ok with so much change and difference and pressure if you’re not at home, if you’re actually autistic. Most of us would need a LOT of preparation for anything like that (like, a visit to the Scottish venue a couple of weeks in advance), and many of us would need someone we trust along for the ride. Otherwise we just wouldn’t be able to navigate all the changes and transitions.
I already did not believe Jack has been diagnosed autistic, and I especially do not believe it today. I believe she has most likely self-diagnosed based on the fact people don’t like her, because it’s an easy label to give yourself to look special to a sympathetic audience. You just need to proclaim you’re different and people believe you, because genuine understanding of the real yet unseen challenges of autism is generally very lacking amongst the general public. Jack seems to think being socially awkward is all you need for the label. It’s not. (But as I said before, if she was to be fully assessed by a psychiatrist, and if she was capable of being honest about what’s inside her head, I believe she’d end up with other labels. I can see why she wouldn’t want to get assessed properly.) It would be a very uncomfortable thing facing up to the fact that your problems are caused by you.