It’s The Fergusons

[Bobinsky]

Christ they're ridiculous. They're going on as if there's thousands of people here hating on them. This thread has been up for 3 months and has 40 posts.. half of them being from a few people losing their tit in defence of them. The meldrums sometimes get 40 posts an hour! They should stop being so petty over a handful of comments and just crack on with what they do

 

[Bobinsky]

Petty? Crack on? Wouldn’t it be wonderful if the handful of trolls did exactly that.

Notice I used my real name. Nothing to hide over here.

If they're on a discussion board posting their opinions that is not trolling.

 

[Bobinsky]

If they are in my dm’s all the time - that’s trolling.

Well I can't imagine they're people from here as nobody on here really cares, hence the minimal replies in comparison to other threads. You only start ranting on about things that have been posted on here

 

[Ispylittleeye]

Anyone seen tonight’s stories? She seems wasted whilst talking about taking chlomid as a last attempt at getting pregnant, 1% chance of it working they said. That just doesn’t sit right with me.

 

[Jen Ferguson]

Hi. Which bit doesn’t sit right with you? Happy to clarify anything for you.

 

[tidalwave]

I guess one of the questions I would have for you - why do you continue to drink so frequently when you're experiencing infertility? If you do any Google search about improving fertility and reducing subsequent risk to a baby, one of the things most often recommended is to limit alcohol intake.

I couldn't possibly empathise with anyone experiencing infertility. That's a kind of pain and heart ache I'm lucky not to have experienced. But, I just can't get my head around why you wouldn't take that one step to increase your chances, if that's genuinely what you want.

 

[Jen Ferguson]

I don't drink frequently. But I guess that’s dependent on your definition of frequent? How many nights a month is frequent for you? I’ve hardly been doing any stories so the last time you saw me drink on social would have been a while ago.
Since my 40th I’ve been on a long term fitness program with a specialist PT and the alcohol I consume is all measured and monitored as part of the fitness program. I could probably provide an overview for you from the app.
I have had long periods of time with no alcohol. I’ve been pregnant 7 times in 4 and a half years and have never had a drop of alcohol during those pregnancies. If you think one pregnancy was 9 months and the other 7 were 3 months each that equates to 30 months! We’ve also been told by numerous specialists that because of our specific, very individual and complicated case that we should allow ourselves to relax and enjoy a few drinks when we want to.
I’d happily give up alcohol for the rest of my life. I enjoy it but I don’t need it. I have first hand experience of people I love and alcoholism so it’s something I take very seriously.
We are under constant care at the moment and as soon as our doctor or nurse tells me to go on a zero alcohol diet I will of course.
I appreciate the message being written in a respectful manner and honestly welcome any more questions you have.

 

[Rainbownotts]

I don't drink frequently. But I guess that’s dependent on your definition of frequent? How many nights a month is frequent for you? I’ve hardly been doing any stories so the last time you saw me drink on social would have been a while ago.
Since my 40th I’ve been on a long term fitness program with a specialist PT and the alcohol I consume is all measured and monitored as part of the fitness program. I could probably provide an overview for you from the app.
I have had long periods of time with no alcohol. I’ve been pregnant 7 times in 4 and a half years and have never had a drop of alcohol during those pregnancies. If you think one pregnancy was 9 months and the other 7 were 3 months each that equates to 30 months! We’ve also been told by numerous specialists that because of our specific, very individual and complicated case that we should allow ourselves to relax and enjoy a few drinks when we want to.
I’d happily give up alcohol for the rest of my life. I enjoy it but I don’t need it. I have first hand experience of people I love and alcoholism so it’s something I take very seriously.
We are under constant care at the moment and as soon as our doctor or nurse tells me to go on a zero alcohol diet I will of course.
I appreciate the message being written in a respectful manner and honestly welcome any more questions you have.

You shouldn’t have to explain yourself infertility is such a dark lonely thing to go through. I’ve been there. So what if Jen enjoys a drink sometimes! Wishing you the best of luck Jen & Al with your IVF.

 

[Wizzywoo]

Anyone have an option about these too? I'm not sure, I know thay been through alot but I find them to much.

 

[Popper]

I agree that what they have been through is awful with regards to recurring miscarriages. However, I feel they overshare on Instagram. I get that they are trying to raise awareness etc etc but it’s too much. Every single part of your life online, forever? Thousands of strangers knowing intimate details of your life? They seem to love the attention and obviously the free goodies that sharing your life online comes with. I have suffered many miscarriages and can’t imagine sharing my heartbreak with thousands of people I don’t know. I find it hard to believe that they do this purely to raise awareness, I feel that they enjoy the “celebrity” side of things

 

[Lewkyhere]

They confuse me. Because I dont think I like them but I cant put my finger on why.....

 

[Largerlout]

There is already a thread on this pair. I can't abide the attention seeking circus they perform on a daily basis. They are both beyond cringe.

 

[Chitterchat]

The way they baby their youngest is beyond me. I have an almost five year old and yet Teddy is treated like he’s 2 or 3. Baffles me

 

[Pumpkinandrose]

I dont know what it is, but I just cant take to them! I feel so much sympathy because of their miscarriages, I wish so badly they could have another baby, but I just have so many questions about them. And before anyone says, why don't you just ask them, they seem like the type of people who dont take criticism well. Seen as they do a post or story about any negativity they get.
There are two things I really want to know from them.
Number one, they have said they cant adopt because they dont have a spare room, so if they did have another baby, where would the baby sleep? Wouldn't that make the house crowded. Correct me if I've got any of this wrong.
And secondly, why do they do so many stories on a day out. I get that people want to share their memories and happy timee but they upload talky stories, videos of the kids, and general pictures one after the other. And I wonder how they can be in that moment with their families if they're constantly doing stories and uploading.
please dont come at me and call me a troll because I have said nothing offensive, I just want to put my questions out there and see if anyone else feels the same.

 

[Lewkyhere]

I dont know what it is, but I just cant take to them! I feel so much sympathy because of their miscarriages, I wish so badly they could have another baby, but I just have so many questions about them. And before anyone says, why don't you just ask them, they seem like the type of people who dont take criticism well. Seen as they do a post or story about any negativity they get.
There are two things I really want to know from them.
Number one, they have said they cant adopt because they dont have a spare room, so if they did have another baby, where would the baby sleep? Wouldn't that make the house crowded. Correct me if I've got any of this wrong.
And secondly, why do they do so many stories on a day out. I get that people want to share their memories and happy timee but they upload talky stories, videos of the kids, and general pictures one after the other. And I wonder how they can be in that moment with their families if they're constantly doing stories and uploading.
please dont come at me and call me a troll because I have said nothing offensive, I just want to put my questions out there and see if anyone else feels the same.

When others have asked questions they tended to get a passive aggressive response from jen, doing the whole nicey nice replying.
But then they act all stupid on their stories or posts about those that question them.

I agree about the adoption thing. They were sleeping in separate rooms for a bit coz of his sleep talking and I thought but where? If theres no room for a new child then where?!

Also, the amount they spend on holidays (the few that arent gifted) or the spending money they'd need for a holiday, plus drinking and socialising, you'd think they'd manage their money better to fund the ivf they so badly needed.
They bought hundreds of pounds worth of tickets for take that back in may. Then tried to flog them on insta.

They just come across as living beyond their means but trying to stay relevant and it's weird.

 

[Givemefreestuff]

I find him extremely arrogant and I feel like if you're not in his circle he wouldn't even give you a second glance

 

[SpeakEasy]

I find him extremely arrogant and I feel like if you're not in his circle he wouldn't even give you a second glance

He is incredibly arrogant - for sure

 

[Largerlout]

He is incredibly arrogant - for sure

He is the man you never want your daughter to meet! He is leery as hell; creeps on women like a dememted sex starved animal. He disgusts me. Last week he actually storied his leery perving on a young waitress. The poor woman/girl; ALL women need to be protected against his predatory behaviour. He makes me boak.

 

[Jen Ferguson]

I dont know what it is, but I just cant take to them! I feel so much sympathy because of their miscarriages, I wish so badly they could have another baby, but I just have so many questions about them. And before anyone says, why don't you just ask them, they seem like the type of people who dont take criticism well. Seen as they do a post or story about any negativity they get.
There are two things I really want to know from them.
Number one, they have said they cant adopt because they dont have a spare room, so if they did have another baby, where would the baby sleep? Wouldn't that make the house crowded. Correct me if I've got any of this wrong.
And secondly, why do they do so many stories on a day out. I get that people want to share their memories and happy timee but they upload talky stories, videos of the kids, and general pictures one after the other. And I wonder how they can be in that moment with their families if they're constantly doing stories and uploading.
please dont come at me and call me a troll because I have said nothing offensive, I just want to put my questions out there and see if anyone else feels the same.

Thanks for the respectful message. I do take valid criticism well and am always open to questions and DM’s. I’m not going to accuse you of trolling and I doubt any of the users of this site ever would!

If we were ever lucky enough to have another baby then the baby would sleep in our room until he/she was old enough to share with their sibling. We aren’t fortunate enough for our children to have a room each but that’s not uncommon. We also have friends who’s children share a bedroom even though they don’t need to - just through choice and they love it.

The second question I’m surprised by as we don’t tend to story much on a day out. I’m very much about being in the moment. But I also like to create photo books and videos of the children to remember their childhood. Stories are sporadic and infrequent compared to other accounts unless we are on a day out to promote something for work. I don’t know if you know but It’s The Ferguson’s is part of Dadsnet and Dadsnet is a full time job for both of us. Stories might also be uploaded by Louis (who is studying media GCSE and therefore practising different skills) or they might be uploaded on a different time frame eg when Al is working, when Ted is sleeping, at the end of the day.

Happy to answer any other questions. I don’t tend to come on here unless someone sends me a screenshot and it’s written respectfully, but you can always dm.

Hope you’re having a great summer

 

[Lewkyhere]

Thanks for the respectful message. I do take valid criticism well and am always open to questions and DM’s. I’m not going to accuse you of trolling and I doubt any of the users of this site ever would!

If we were ever lucky enough to have another baby then the baby would sleep in our room until he/she was old enough to share with their sibling. We aren’t fortunate enough for our children to have a room each but that’s not uncommon. We also have friends who’s children share a bedroom even though they don’t need to - just through choice and they love it.

The second question I’m surprised by as we don’t tend to story much on a day out. I’m very much about being in the moment. But I also like to create photo books and videos of the children to remember their childhood. Stories are sporadic and infrequent compared to other accounts unless we are on a day out to promote something for work. I don’t know if you know but It’s The Ferguson’s is part of Dadsnet and Dadsnet is a full time job for both of us. Stories might also be uploaded by Louis (who is studying media GCSE and therefore practising different skills) or they might be uploaded on a different time frame eg when Al is working, when Ted is sleeping, at the end of the day.

Happy to answer any other questions. I don’t tend to come on here unless someone sends me a screenshot and it’s written respectfully, but you can always dm.

Hope you’re having a great summer

See this is what happened on the last thread. A nicey nice response.
There is no way louis takes half of those stories, hes not always there for starters. Some of them are done in real time. And there are tons.

Sometimes people just fancy a little chat about others. Sometimes they dont need a passive aggressive/nicey nice response, or a story calling out trolls (which is what the sarcastic comment did at the beginning here).