I'm desperately sorry that you had to face such neglect, EB. And I so admire you for having the fortitude and mental courage to take the situation by the scruff of the neck and turn it into something positive, developing skills and resilience along the way. It really is admirable. How have you coped in the long run, if I may ask? (You're under no obligation to reply if it is too difficult and personal to respond; I'm honestly thinking about the longterm outcome for Ella, as your situations seem similar.) I too hope that IG is doing his absolute damndest to help those girls and reclaim the warm, solid relationship that he had with them in earlier days. Alice's behaviour is so malicious, despicable and toxic that it will take a great deal of effort to undo the damage; they will probably need heavy duty counselling both individually and as part of a family unit. I also agree that he should return to the UK; it will be healthier for the girls, he will get a lot more work, and they'll be away from the toxic, sycophantic, sleazy lovefest that is the Hollywood idyll.
May I return the comment and say that I always like and value your posts? You have a wonderful, clear way of expressing yourself, and I really admire your ability to remain neutral in the face of chaos!! xxx
Thank you dear, I’ve definitely learned to stay calm in chaos
I’ve had excellent therapy and went away to uni to study film, and ended up training as a SFX makeup artist and have worked in film and TV. I didn’t escape completely unscathed, as I have BPD but that’s something I largely have under control now. So there's light at the end of the tunnel for anyone in a similar situation. We’re all different though, and everyone handles trauma in different ways. But I told myself I won’t let generational trauma be the end of me, and I wanted to break that cycle. I was SA by the boyfriend of a family member at a young age, and saw a lot of violence growing up. My grandmother (who has passed now) was herself abused, so I’ve forgiven her.
I hope the girls can get away and go to college, because Alice seems to want them to stay her babies forever, as I think she’s petrified of being alone. I hope they’ll be able to mend their relationship with their father, and if not, get a little older and see the situation and the PA for what it was.
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I hope the girls can get away and go to college, because Alice seems to want them to stay her babies forever, as I think she’s petrified of being alone. I hope they’ll be able to mend their relationship with their father, and if not, get a little older and see the situation and the PA for what it was.
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