Sorry to bother you at work! Pls, return to your job if this is too upsetting right now. I talk so much, just ignore me if you want to!
Your opinion is totally not harmful in the general sense of your belief that BW is trolling. I think it was the accusatory nature of "you all" followed by a disputable claim that could rub others the wrong way, you know what I mean? If I told people who don't like Bianca, "BW's amazing. You're all just being excessively picky about what qualities you find admirable in another human being, and you don't even realize it"...chances are they'll be like, "Whoa, now, why the judgment? You don't know what I'm thinking!" I think that's how the remark was coming off, and it can be inflammatory without you even intending it that way.
Also, the good news is, there are PLENTY of posters who feel dismay at BW and IG's choices! I have a couple of gripes, too! Many have concluded their posts with things along the lines of "I think everyone is to blame" or "I don't think anyone here is perfect" or "IG and BW shouldn't have done (actions), it was lousy"; I witnessed a lot of that shortly after the (in)famous first pics of Bianca and Ioan were posted to social media. A lot of people called it irresponsible.
And I know there are many more, myself included, who just don't voice the aforementioned sentiments because we're kind of already comfy knowing it's in our heads, like that's sort of enough for some of us. And in some cases, people just don't feel the need to explicitly say that. I can understand if these comments are harder to catch, but I promise you, they're being made, and maybe a couple of people in here will follow my post agreeing with you that BW and IG aren't innocent. I accidentally kickstarted a HUGE argument a number of threads ago about this...but I encourage people not to polarize/radicalize my opinions of IG and BW as being profoundly, unquestionably supportive nor implementing language that suggests this, and I'm sure some other people who favor BW and IG felt similarly about that issue.
Yeah, I don't condone the appearance-based quips about Alice/comparisons between Bianca and Alice's physical image, and I try to avoid them to the best of my ability. I don't know if I've ever let myself slip up, maybe at most once; I do consider that we all have some degree of ingrained sexism, fat-shaming, etc. based on societal conditioning, all of which could accidentally surface when we're in states of extreme anger or hurt or annoyance, when we're eager to shoot back at Alice to ease our own fiery emotions. That is NOT an excuse, just an explanation! It isn't fair, you're right, and I remember a few have asked that we try to avoid this going forward, so perhaps that's something we can keep in mind.
Thanks for clarifying, dear Nelly. I'm very sorry there's frustration on your end, but I really hope you stick around, and keep sharing your opinions, and I hope we can enjoy a space where people who have this opinion or that opinion can offer them in thoughtful ways that kickstart meaningful discussion and leave everyone feeling gooooooood.