Alice has made many references to being badly behaved. There are photos of her as a child already looking smug and full of herself. My narc sister had similar expressions that are etched in my brain and that of my sister that I share a close bond with. It would strike fear in our hearts when she gave us the look. My parents enabled her behavior because they felt guilty that she got sick. She wasn’t traumatized but cherished, spoiled, and loved. My dad would not allow her to be disciplined.
She abused us terribly. With words, by terrorizing us, and for me by biting, slapping, spitting in my face, holding me down and tickling me until I couldn’t breathe, taking a knife to me, taking my favorite toys and ruining them, and always ruining meals by picking fights at the table. As a result I have an eating disorder and have teetered on developing anorexia.
I believe the lack of boundaries led to her behavior but she was also a challenging child. There is more but I don’t want to write an essay.
This was ages ago when children had boundaries and dared not cross them. Children now are too precious for any sort of discipline or respect. They are “spicy.” Their poor behavior is constantly excused and enabled. I’m not saying all children are raised this way but it seems to be the norm, at least it is here in the states. It does children a world of harm. MOO