OMG. IG asked her why won't she let him be happy and she's seems so nonchalant about it. I'd be horrified.
From previous thread
So would I. And that's the difference between us and narcs - we have compassion and empathy, insight and the ability the refect.
They (narcs) are the centre of their known universe. Everything, and everyone (including kids) has to revolve around them and their needs & wants.
Their ability to adjust their behaviour until they have achieved a set objective - basically manipulating and gaslighting (even love bombing) their chosen targets/victims - is lethal because, whilst some can see through it, often their target does not.
Once they (victim/target) have been brought under control, it is very difficult for them to break away, especially when children are involved.
When the ex partner has broken free, all attempts to be reasonable, be fair, even handed, are twisted and maligned in the narcs' rage to gain back control of the ex partner (for example, kids told stories like absent (eg working) parent is ill/dead, absent parent told children fatally/seriously ill, children abandoned, narc goes "missing", .... The list goes on, I have heard it all
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As I said earlier, AE will continue this behaviour into their adulthood. She will continue to try and make them all conform to her idea of her happiness - her little "stepford" family, where they all jump through the hoops to prevent narc meltdowns, and they all tell her how glorious and wonderful she is and how happy they are with her whilst each day they would have died a little more.
So come on, IG - if I and others can do it, with our limited resources but with big hearts and strength of will, so can you - step up and save your girls!