I didn’t like the whole ‘I won’t apologise for anything I’ve said’ in their first post. Some truly, truly awful things were said in the DM comments. This got my spidey senses tingling from the off. I was so pleased to see the turd challenges, especially from
@ButterTart I really wanted to say something but you all had it covered way more succinctly than I could have managed
Agreed. When I’ve said something awful in the past I not only apologise profusely (and *straight away*); I examine my behaviour, thought-patterns, internalised and instinctive biases and make a change. It’s not that hard, really - it just requires one to be honest with oneself, and realise of what one is capable.
I found the whole FP interaction last night pretty bizarre (this is progress for an autistic me; before, I would have gone along with it in the belief that that person was speaking the truth). How can you read those horrific 113 pages (and the 73 in the earlier submission) and say impatiently, ‘yes, yes, I read all of that
but where’s the proof?’ Do not examples of physical battery, mental cruelty, child manipulation and endangerment, sexual aggression and harrassment (the bare arse incident), endless untruths, declarations of revenge, destruction of a man’s character, behaviour that ranges from dismissiveness to utter dislike of one’s youngest child, contacting colleagues, friends and employees, revealing someone’s private health status, extremely vulgar verbal abuse, chasing after a young woman’s family and encouraging others to doxx her count as proof? As if IG would really lie in court documents! Come on. I’m not an IG stan - I thought he was pretty good looking when he was younger but too slim (I like my men built like rugby props), and I can’t get on board with the whole crystals-woo-The-Secret stuff. That’s okay, though: that’s my own personal opinion. What I do think, though (having survived a narcissist for a father, ex-husband and ex-fiancé) is that Malice is a Grade A manipulator, abuser, liar and sociopath. I’ll support anyone who has found the strength to liberate themselves from the clutches of vile and violent narcissists.
(Thank you all so much for your lovely good wishes and messages. Sorry that I didn’t respond - and that your emotional labour seemed unacknowledged; I’ve just been dealing with the worst clinical depression I’ve had in years. Tilly, Brie, Pearls, LuluGrace, Luloo -you’re the kindest of the kind. Let it never be said that this site attracts the worst people imaginable. I’m now on 150mg Sertraline to help with the crushing emotions and am trying to find work; I even, much to my sadness, have had to sign on because having zero money is just horrific. Hopefully everything will change in the new year: 2022 has sucked HARD.
Slava Ukraini, Heroyam Slava.)