The threats of imprisonment are for repeatedly breaching court orders based on evidenced harassment and abuse, which is apparently fine to overlook because the victim is a man and not a woman.
I know who I believe.I think that Alice is one of the reasons his career didn’t fly, her personality, limpet behaviour, and his domination by her had an effect. Also, there are loads of actors around equally, if not more, talented than Ioan. Success is down to hard work, and an enormous dollop of luck and good timing. He lost his way professionally after some stocking performances early in his career, Hornblower, Warriors, Solomon a Gaenor. There is a long list. I also believe that they should have stayed in the UK, his career would have grown. I wonder if he ever regrets doing 102 Dalmatians now.
Agreed. He truly wanted to coparent and collab. As the year has gone on and she has gotten worse, he’s had to adjust to that and change course which is why it’s taking longer than we’d all like. And I know lots of single dads who work in mines and camps and the grandparents or nanny or step mom take over. He’s not the first single parent with logistical matters to tackle and he can do it.
It appears that all of this will be coming to a hysterical crescendo of Alice’s doing, and one of which she will make great hay. Cue the drama of her being forcibly removed from her home, crying children trying to call their father saying that they have no where to live and poor mummy, we have no money and it’s all your fault, etc. etc. I’m not sure whether something can happen before the end of August to avoid this, or whether it is an inevitability.
Sadly, I’m going with an inevitability.
Just for fun, I Zillowed houses for sale in West Hollywood. A very modest, but perfectly liveable, 2 bed/2bath condo runs about $800,000. Zillow estimates monthly costs--mortgage, property taxes, insurance, HOA fees--to be about $4800 per month. Using the 30% of gross income rule, she would need to earn about $192,000 annually to afford that.
We need an archivist to index these screenshots!
I agree with this and I’m a parent myself. In my opinion mAlice has only one intention and that is to split up Yo and
whatever way she can, even if it means going to jail. That would be the ultimate win for her. She’s already turned his children against him and breaking him and apart will be the icing on the cake. I despise her with a passion. 
I agree. She is DESPERATE to confront him, face to face. Always has been. She wants the last word, she wants to regain the upper hand, and she’s deluded enough to think she can tempt him back - if only they were to meet.
if she doesn't appear on Aug. 2, it's highly likely the PRO will be granted, as the judge will only have Ioan's evidence to consider. And he did say when he filed in February he had more he would product at the hearing. If he requests custody between now and then there is an excellent chance it would also be heard at that hearing, as being granted the PRO will affect Alice's ability to have custody and spousal support.
many thanks
I agree she is desperate to see him but equally I think she is desperate not to be seen by him, looking like she currently does. It’s a real dilemma for our Alice, what is one to do…??
That is EXACTLY what Betty Broderick did, hoping the kids would drive John and Linda apart, but it backfired on her as the kids developed a better relationship with their father and grew close to Linda
I always appreciate your insight and knowledge as we try to talk our way through this mess of a divorce x
@ReturningthePearls I love what you have written about the need to be able to identify and express negative thoughts, feelings and emotions.
I have just bought a book of poems called "how the heart can falter", the description of the book reads it is "the story of the experiences that build us, of the people whose actions are the tools that carve us, of the unflinching hope of a child’s love, of the constant friction of a life lived in grief."
I bought it not only because the poems are beautiful (and if you Google the poet you will find her website where she reads some of own works) but because I was also prompted by reading her online work into thinking of how under-estimated the power of words, the ability to express all those negative thoughts and feelings, are in the road to personal recovery after experiencing bereavement, loss (of any kind) and grief.
It reminded me also of the book of Psalms, and the "difficult" to read Psalms - the imprecatory ones where David or the author is expressing anger and bewilderment towards their deity because of what is happening in their life. These were included in the book as well as the praise psalms because it was recognised that at times of grief and despair someone may struggle to put into words what they wanted to express, and it was/is important to express them rather than bottle them up and become ill from what we now know can happen through unexpressed grief, stress, anger.
Using the written words of others is a "safe" and creative way of identifying and expressing our own thoughts, feelings and emotions.
And you, dear RTP, often express for us in beautiful and creative ways - not only with your thoughts and words but also with your art - and we appreciate it.
(Apologies for the waffling)
We have to discuss these poems in the Tattle Turds thread sometime, please. 🥹I get the sense there are negotiations happening behind the scenes, as there were leading up to the postponed hearing this month. I feel for Ioan's attorneys if they are dealing directly with Alice, but if she wasn't heeding the advice from her previous lawyers might as well save some time and fly direct. If I'm Alice, I want the restraining order to be dropped. If I'm Ioan, I want ... ?
