And this is why she wants him to meet her, face to face, because she thinks she can continue to manipulate him the way she has throughout their relationship. And why it infuriates her so that he refuses to agree to even speak with her.
And this is also why it so vital that he has the support of his lawyers (and, we presume, therapists).
They are removed from the bonds and emotional ties that she has to him and can help him understand in ways that even his closest family, and his now partner cannot, how to negotiate a path through this extreme weed infested nightmare he must feel he is is trapped in by not having access to his beloved children.
From personal experience, I can imagine that being denied her demands to access him must be so angering for her.
I imagine her like some demented creature screaming into the abyss in frustration every time her plans are thwarted, then turning her frustrations upon his partner and his extended family are just normal behaviour for her.
I just want her to understand, through my own experience, that all her plotting and planning against them as a couple and individuals is not only pathetic and fruitless but is - for her - so negative and soul destroying. It benefits not one thing.
She will not gain him back as a partner or husband.
She will have broken her children's relationships with him as as a father and, potentially, their relationships with men in the future.
She will have broken her children relationships with her, they will grow to realise that she was a bitter and emotionally maladjusted person who was selfish and did not prioritise them as a mother should.
She will have destroyed all potential for herself in regards to employment - she does not present as a well balanced individual and is looking more of the "Amber Heard" she threatened to be in the TRO than the "Johnny Depp" she is desperately trying to say she is just now.
She is looking like a fraudster - her attempts to embarrass her ex have failed. Her spending habits, including her recent purchases on eBay and concert tickets do not balance out with her GFM appeal as being destitute and unable to feed her children!
My personal experience is that the children grow up knowing exactly what the narc parent is. They love them, but they don't necessarily like them or want to live with them or have contact with them. If the narc parent is lucky, they might want contact with them - but on strict terms, because they know the narc always focuses everything on themselves and it becomes too overwhelming, even when the children are adults, so there has to be strict boundaries.
It's not a term I use often, but sometimes it's so on point:
Karma is a bitch!