Let me think how to put this...Mine were big before kids, then have continued to get bigger. I did read that peri and actual menopause they get bigger as you produce less, is it estrogen? I really hope not as mine are ridiculous already to deal with! I’m roughly the same age as Alice, a little younger.
Can I clarify-so if you file for divorce in US because your spouse is impossible to live with for example, you have to pay their legal costs? What if you can’t? Do you have to stay in a crappy marriage? Sorry for all the questions. I find that a bit unfair, you could be trapped forever. Hope I’ve got this wrong
This tweeter obviously hasn’t been here. More love and support here than Ive seen in most places.
My experience is with my and my ex but we had a great number of assets. And it was a very complicated, two year divorce with different matters airing long after the divorce.
My sister's husband filed - he paid for his attorney. At first she paid for her own attorney, but one of the things you can ask for is attorney fees to be paid especially if you were filed against and the other spouses income is greater.
New York is still one of the few states that is an "at fault" state. So once everybody files, it becomes at the judges discretion to which party is at "fault" which can also determine who may get stuck with attorney fees.
California is a "no fault" state. But (and CA people can weigh in) there comes a time where - even if they are the poorer party, if they are attempting to stretch out the divorce and found "guilty" of harming the party that first filed - they may be stuck with attorney fees of their own.
In other words - Ioan filed against Alice. But a restraining order and her continually not meeting deadlines may cause they judge (depending on if Ioan now asks for attorney fees) to take all the legal fees out of her settlement.
Does that make sense?