Ive rarely found any women that orgasm from penetration alone so toys and oral for sure would help. Also condoms can cause allergies and the lube that comes on them wears off really fast and is pretty useless actually.He isn’t great if he isn’t willing to listen and make sure you are taken care of too...especially if it bothers you.
he should take care of you first... there are lots of ways. Maybe start experimenting with toys. Also there is always oral that honestly can be a lot better than actual penetrative sex, especially bc not all women will have an orgasm just from penetration.
I don’t unless I’m not turned on enough and that’s not just about “lubrication”. Also condoms can cause more friction too so if you’re using them, experimenting with different types and brands could help.
Ive always found lube is essential no matter what. It enhances the experience for everyone and stops minor friction cuts happening as often and overall just makes everything a little more comfortable for everyone. Latex free ones are pretty expensive but if you are in the position to not use them safely then it might lessen the chances of injury.
Always start very slowly and as I said above I would always recommend lube no matter what, it certainly saves on any injuries and makes everything easier and more comfortable for both people.We don’t use condoms anymore but even when we did I didn’t notice a difference. Always so sore after like at first it stings like a cut then just feels bruised for about 24hrs. Sometimes a bath helps.
Also if you have experienced this a few times your body might be subconsciously tensing up as you are associating it with pain.