How much sex is "normal" in a relationship

[strawberrysunshine_x]

I'm single but two of my best friends have sex once a week with their husbands. It's always the same night unless it's time of the month. I used to laugh but they said it stops the husband trying it on when they don't feel like it, they know it's booked in so it doesn't become a thing and it's like an agreement. Seems to suit them very well. One of them chose a Wednesday night though which I thought was strange.

Nothing like a mid week bonk. Me and mine used to do it every Friday. It wasn’t that we said we would it just happened

now we don’t do it every week. Some weeks we do some weeks it’s every other week just whenever we are feeling it and around my periods

 

[Millennial Pink]

Been with Mr Pink for years now, we try to 'plan' sex in around date nights or something but then something usually gets in the way. Someone's too tired or ended up with toothache or a bad stomach or put their back out (him)...

I've got the nexplanon implant at the moment which has absolutely killed my libido.

 

[Elle Woods]

Omg it makes me feel better knowing other couples do it on set days Me and my bf always seem to do it on a Sunday never planned it that way it just always happens on a sunday

 

[EndofInfluencers]

I'm single but two of my best friends have sex once a week with their husbands. It's always the same night unless it's time of the month. I used to laugh but they said it stops the husband trying it on when they don't feel like it, they know it's booked in so it doesn't become a thing and it's like an agreement. Seems to suit them very well. One of them chose a Wednesday night though which I thought was strange.

Wednesday is a really random day to mark off as the day, but I suppose it brings a whole new meaning to ‘Hump Day’

 

[ImDavidBrent]

Since having a baby we don’t do it anywhere near as much as we use to. Use to be most days and now we’re like should we? Naaah let’s just go to sleep.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Since having a baby we don’t do it anywhere near as much as we use to. Use to be most days and now we’re like should we? Naaah let’s just go to sleep.

I think that is totally normal

 

[Punchface]

I'm single but two of my best friends have sex once a week with their husbands. It's always the same night unless it's time of the month. I used to laugh but they said it stops the husband trying it on when they don't feel like it, they know it's booked in so it doesn't become a thing and it's like an agreement. Seems to suit them very well. One of them chose a Wednesday night though which I thought was strange.

It’s hump day, innit… (edit: damn, someone beat me to it )

 

[Sir Lancelot]

Sex? I think I remember it...

 

[Comewhinewithme]

I'm single but two of my best friends have sex once a week with their husbands. It's always the same night unless it's time of the month. I used to laugh but they said it stops the husband trying it on when they don't feel like it, they know it's booked in so it doesn't become a thing and it's like an agreement. Seems to suit them very well. One of them chose a Wednesday night though which I thought was strange.

Also have a friend that has this agreement, at 1st I was oh how very stepford wife, every Friday the husband gets serviced. But no! It's the best idea! as her husband doesn't torture her everyday. Friday night and then she gets peace. Now it's not a quicky, it's an evening with a bit of effort on both parts, but then freedom for a week

 

[Hot_Dogs_Or_Toes]

Sex scheduling is something I used to do with my ex and it generally worked pretty well (we didn't split up over the sex at least LOL). We had sex every Tuesday and Sunday night, pretty religiously without fail. Sure there were times when one of us perhaps wasn't really feeling it but we always made sure to do it anyway as sticking to the routine was the goal. It didn't mean we couldn't have sex on other days if we wanted to but both of us knew that at least twice a week we'd be able to have sex so it took away any sort of anxiety/disagreements on when to do it etc.

 

[Lazarus]

I’ve often wondered if there was a thread for this, but never searched it out, so I’m glad to see it here.
me and my husband used to have sex much more often than we do now. I’d say we used to have sex about twice a week, but for the past year or 15 months, I’d say it’s about once a week, sometimes even veering closer to once a fortnight.

I’m 43, perimenopausal and feel at times like I’ve completely lost my sex drive. I still find my husband handsome, sexy, physically appealing but I’ve lost my libido and I’m quite sad about it.
When our sex life was more regular, we were really adventurous, expressive and it was great. Now we still do that but it feels a little more planned.
I’ve read comments on here that people like to have set nights for sex; I’d much rather it was spontaneous.

Is anyone perimenopausal and losing their sex drive? I miss it. I bloody love a good pummelling in normal times 🫣

 

[EndofInfluencers]

I’ve often wondered if there was a thread for this, but never searched it out, so I’m glad to see it here.
me and my husband used to have sex much more often than we do now. I’d say we used to have sex about twice a week, but for the past year or 15 months, I’d say it’s about once a week, sometimes even veering closer to once a fortnight.

I’m 43, perimenopausal and feel at times like I’ve completely lost my sex drive. I still find my husband handsome, sexy, physically appealing but I’ve lost my libido and I’m quite sad about it.
When our sex life was more regular, we were really adventurous, expressive and it was great. Now we still do that but it feels a little more planned.
I’ve read comments on here that people like to have set nights for sex; I’d much rather it was spontaneous.

Is anyone perimenopausal and losing their sex drive? I miss it. I bloody love a good pummelling in normal times 🫣

If it makes you feel any better quite a few of my friends in their 30s only have sex a few times a year with their partners.

 

[Mamacita]

If it makes you feel any better quite a few of my friends in their 30s only have sex a few times a year with their partners.

That's honestly me, I think it's more common in this generation!

 

[Begborrowsteal]

I can't even remember the last time I had sex

 

[Comewhinewithme]

If it makes you feel any better quite a few of my friends in their 30s only have sex a few times a year with their partners.

Wish people would be more honest like this. I feel this may be true for a lot of people, maybe the odd couple still manage 4x a week but most, nope

 

[Lazarus]

If it makes you feel any better quite a few of my friends in their 30s only have sex a few times a year with their partners.

Strangely it doesn’t make me feel any better. I get the sentiment, but I think the thing for me is: I want to have sex, I miss it; I just have no sex drive.

 

[EndofInfluencers]

Strangely it doesn’t make me feel any better. I get the sentiment, but I think the thing for me is: I want to have sex, I miss it; I just have no sex drive.

Have you had your hormone levels checked recently? I was having a number of symptoms (including low libido) and found out I had oestrogen dominance with very low progesterone, so I started taking a progesterone cream made from wild yam to help increase my progesterone levels. I would get your hormone levels checked.

 

[Lazarus]

Have you had your hormone levels checked recently? I was having a number of symptoms (including low libido) and found out I had oestrogen dominance with very low progesterone, so I started taking a progesterone cream made from wild yam to help increase my progesterone levels. I would get your hormone levels checked.

No I haven’t, and hadn’t thought about it. Thanks so much for reading my comment here and suggesting this. I’m going to the doctor next week so will ask about this. Would you mind me asking what other symptoms you had?
Thanks again, really appreciate it.

worth saying also,I had wonderful sex today 🫣

 

[EndofInfluencers]

No I haven’t, and hadn’t thought about it. Thanks so much for reading my comment here and suggesting this. I’m going to the doctor next week so will ask about this. Would you mind me asking what other symptoms you had?
Thanks again, really appreciate it.

worth saying also,I had wonderful sex today 🫣

No problem at all and good to hear I was having mood swings (more so than usual), migraines, irritability, anxiety, I would get tearful (unusual for me), my periods were heavier and longer than usual, and I had gained weight.

Initially I thought I was going into an early menopause, the male GP said that wasn’t possible as my oestrogen levels were fine but what he failed to mention was that my oestrogen levels were extremely high with very low progesterone levels. I ended up having to pay privately to get my hormone levels checked and see a private specialist, so make sure you ask your GP for the exact breakdown of all your sex hormones and ask them to check your prolactin levels too.

 

[clueless]

I can't remember the last time and to be honest most of the time I am happy enough..! Sometimes though I get really in the mood - we don't live together so I can think all week about what I want to do when I next see him, thinking about sexy ideas, scenarios etc... but by the time I see him the feeling has quite often passed I want to be more active though as I do get caught up in the "this isn't normal" feeling.

Sometimes he instigates but I just don't feel like it... other times I have instigated and he hasn't felt like it. Then when we DO do it we always say why don't we do this more often it's a funny thing.