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I've tried to explain this but doesn't work ha ha. Maybe one day
Any tips would be gratefully received haha
Finish with him?, its not on for a partner to be that selfish.You dont want to be stuck with him for years if hes that crap.I'd honestly get rid of him. You deserve better.I've tried to explain this but doesn't work ha ha. Maybe one day
Any tips would be gratefully received haha
How have I missed this thread.
So nice seeing the difference and realising everything is normal for each couple.
For us, when I was pregnant we stopped having sex after I was 6 month and probably didn’t have sex again till 6/7 months post partum as I was nervous of the pain for some reason ( husband was still satisfied haha)
Its only the last year we have been back on track to our ‘normal’ sometimes we go every other night sometimes once or twice a week. Depending on how tired we are.
So nice seeing the difference and realising everything is normal for each couple.
For us, when I was pregnant we stopped having sex after I was 6 month and probably didn’t have sex again till 6/7 months post partum as I was nervous of the pain for some reason ( husband was still satisfied haha)
Its only the last year we have been back on track to our ‘normal’ sometimes we go every other night sometimes once or twice a week. Depending on how tired we are.
I have thought about it but in other ways (non sex related) he is fantastic.
Just fed up of trying to talk to him about it and getting no where lol
Im 50 partner is 57 been together 7 years.
Id say mainly every day . . If he had his way it would be more often, when we were 1st together we'd often spend whole weekends in bed.
Occasionally if we do skip a day here or there I notice us getting bickery with each other.
I know sex isnt the bee all but it IS an important part of our relationship.
I dont drink alcohol every day and notice our sex is soooo much better when we haven't had a glass or 2.
Id say mainly every day . . If he had his way it would be more often, when we were 1st together we'd often spend whole weekends in bed.
Occasionally if we do skip a day here or there I notice us getting bickery with each other.
I know sex isnt the bee all but it IS an important part of our relationship.
I dont drink alcohol every day and notice our sex is soooo much better when we haven't had a glass or 2.
Yes but you are only young you are going to end up frustrated and angry. He might have something medically wrong with him as well.Its very selfish of him not to trying hard to fix the situation and ignore your needs.What if you want kids and by this time he gets worse?
That’s very true! I do think it’s something medical as it seems to be getting worse. X
I'd be talking to him and making him an appointment with the G.P and go with him.X
I’ve tried haha! Asked him to go before and he won’t, I think he’s scared of the answer from them!
complicated x
Judging by this thread no one is really okay with it. I’d say they just put up with it because there arent many alternatives and its still a hard subject to talk about in a relationship
I’m laughing so hard I’m work because I read that as “anally”I could of wrote this
Sex Toys, some men are intimidated at the thought of bringing them into the bedroom for fear of being replaced but personally I think that is pure nonsense. A bullet vibrator or something he wont be as intimidated by initially is a good place to start. They can easily be incorperated into sex and also be used together for mutual pleasure. Also dont have to have full sex to get the job done, oral sex, masturbation and using sex toys on each other is also an option. There are SO many ways to get the job done and you would almost be restricting yourself by attempting to get there purely through penetrative sex alone. I mean if hes not into the thought of his partner bringing more variety and spice into the bedroom and talking about sex more openly then there is definately something wrong somewhere.I've tried to explain this but doesn't work ha ha. Maybe one day
Any tips would be gratefully received haha
I think that communication is absolutely key to a healthy relationship. If you can’t talk to him about an important issue like this, or he refuses to listen to you, then alarm bells would be ringing for me! Intimacy is really important too, and you’re only young, you need to move on from him.
Before kids we used to twice a day when we stayed over at eachothers places. So every other day. Now we have a baby and live together, not so much 
my sex drive is low now because im not happy with my post baby body and I'm always tired. Plus I've not been well post partum. Luckily I have a boyfriend who isn't that bothered, he makes the odd joke but he knows once I feel better and baby is a bit older ill (hopefully) be back to my old self
my sex drive is low now because im not happy with my post baby body and I'm always tired. Plus I've not been well post partum. Luckily I have a boyfriend who isn't that bothered, he makes the odd joke but he knows once I feel better and baby is a bit older ill (hopefully) be back to my old selfHe isn’t great if he isn’t willing to listen and make sure you are taken care of too...especially if it bothers you.
he should take care of you first... there are lots of ways. Maybe start experimenting with toys. Also there is always oral that honestly can be a lot better than actual penetrative sex, especially bc not all women will have an orgasm just from penetration.
I don’t unless I’m not turned on enough and that’s not just about “lubrication”. Also condoms can cause more friction too so if you’re using them, experimenting with different types and brands could help.
We don’t use condoms anymore but even when we did I didn’t notice a difference. Always so sore after like at first it stings like a cut then just feels bruised for about 24hrs. Sometimes a bath helps.
That doesn’t sound right, have you asked a dr about this? Also it could the that you’re physically not “relaxed” enough?
We don’t use condoms anymore but even when we did I didn’t notice a difference. Always so sore after like at first it stings like a cut then just feels bruised for about 24hrs. Sometimes a bath helps.
Yeah mentioned it a couple times, they just said the same that I wasn’t turned on when I know I am. It’s been the same with every partner I’ve ever had since I lost my virginity
. Weirdly have no issue with examinations at the doctors (have had quite a few abormal smears and subsequent investigations over the years). I do have very sensitive skin so thought maybe some sort of irritation - I dunno.That could be it. Also just because you feel turned on doesn’t mean your body is ready. It’s all muscles down there so if those arenmt relaxed enough it could cause problems.
Yeah mentioned it a couple times, they just said the same that I wasn’t turned on when I know I am. It’s been the same with every partner I’ve ever had since I lost my virginity