I just feel so sorry for her tbh. I can see how she’s gotten in this mess, I see it with my friends when they don’t have a supportive partner. It becomes too much for them to hold boundaries and routines, there’s a bit of slippage to make life easier one day, a bit more and before you know it routine is completely out the window and the kids are “hard” work. (Of course they aren’t, they just need some structure). If I was up at 5.30 most days I’d be putting the tv on but I’m not so I am well rested and don’t need to resort to it. Likewise we’ve a good evening routine so when something happens and my child fights it I have the reserves to adjust and see what works. But I’d imagine if I was already wrecked I would just let him fall asleep on the sofa one night, and then one night becomes routine etc. it’s really Ash I think we should be criticising because she seems so on her own!