HomewithShan#6 Still ignores her kids & asks ‘why does George scream at me?’, would take a poke in eye for free

[cosmicstar]

Potty training doesnt take that long and that accidents arent normal. It's only anecdotal but I know many children who have been potty trained successfully without all the issues Shan is having. This isn't down to poor G's readiness, he is over 3, he is more than ready. Its fully Shan's parental skills - or lack thereof.

She pretended she suffered from infertility because it took them 5 months to get pregnant just to get sympathy and likes and now she is pretending she might have had some postpartum depression, when she doesnt even frekking know what that actually means, just to flog unnecessary private therapy.

A (probably American) 'therapist' probably isnt the right person to diagnose you with 'a little bit of PPD'. Its pretty serious diagnosis you get from a psychiatrist.

She is a bad excuse for a human.

 

[Dramallama2]

We potty trained at New Year and by day 5 we had no accidents and hadn’t had an accident in about 5ish weeks! So definitely is not like how she described, for us anyway!
We also still use a pull up for night time, would rather that than change sheets in the night!

It can vary for everyone but it took my LG about 4 days to crack the basics and any accidents we had were more misses of not getting to the toilet quick enough. Within 2 weeks it was as if day nappies never existed. It does take some kids a bit of time to adjust getting used to under pants but even then it only takes a day or two for them to adjust. We did have a minor regression about 4 months in where she would say "I need a wee" but then go right there but that only lasted maybe a week. 8 months later and we only rely on night nappies and can get away with only carrying one pair of spare clothing (though I carry more just in case)
) and even then not had to use them! You have to be committed and really responsive when they say they need to go, which Shan probably hasn't been. Pretty sure she started potty training well before my LG started too. I know it's not a competition but it shouldn't take that long to still not be mostly accident free.

The oh crap book is what we used for daytime training and really recommend it. My biggest tip is when they do have an accident, don't make it a big deal and try not make any loud noises as that can make them think they're doing something wrong and can lead to them holding it or going to hide and do it.

This is so re-assuring to hear! I would take your lot advice any day rather than Shan's! Will look at the book too

 

[ohsosweet]

I can’t believe he’s still having about 5 accidents a week almost a year on. This just screams how much of a pathetic attempt she’s gave it, she forced him into it when he probably wasn’t ready and just expected him to take to it from day 1. Please no one tell me this many accidents is actually normal because we’ve not started yet and I’m already not looking forward to it!?

My little girl has been potty trained for a year. She was dry by day 4 and using a potty. We don’t have a potty anymore and she just uses the toilet now. She has gone through phases of having more accidents! Mainly if she’s playing and ignoring the urge to go to continue playing. If I remind her to use the toilet at nursery before I drop her off, she usually stays dry. Little things like that help her. Accidents due to distraction are quite normal up to about age 5 in my experience as an early years teacher. What isn’t normal is just having accident after accident, long term.

 

[Jc456]

My youngest was between 3-3.5 ish when I potty trained her, only ever had accidents but she has tummy issues. My eldest was the same with no accidents, she was just under 3. He wasn't ready and they can regress when a big event happens like a sibling being born, moving house, new nursery etc.
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My little girl has been potty trained for a year. She was dry by day 4 and using a potty. We don’t have a potty anymore and she just uses the toilet now. She has gone through phases of having more accidents! Mainly if she’s playing and ignoring the urge to go to continue playing. If I remind her to use the toilet at nursery before I drop her off, she usually stays dry. Little things like that help her. Accidents due to distraction are quite normal up to about age 5 in my experience as an early years teacher. What isn’t normal is just having accident after accident, long term.

Oh yes my eldest had a couple when she started school! She was so engrossed in what was going on and they didn't have as many reminders to go to the toilet like they did at nursery. She'd never had an accident before starting school though

 

[zoomies]

This is disgusting - saying her son is emotionally manipulating her?! The levels she is going to for views and attention are vile. Poor George might find all of this when he's older, rather than seeing things that say how much his mum loved him, all he will see is that she thought he was emotionally manipulative, difficult etc...poor poor child.

 

[MrsHeather]

If she thought she had ppd in the newborn days why not address it then? Why wait until H is 7 months old? Ohh yeah, because she wasn't offered free therapy, unless she got it on the nhs but there's no benefit for her then. She's using ppd to make a profit and it makes me sick, she's bleeping vile.

 

[cosmicstar]

This is disgusting - saying her son is emotionally manipulating her?! The levels she is going to for views and attention are vile. Poor George might find all of this when he's older, rather than seeing things that say how much his mum loved him, all he will see is that she thought he was emotionally manipulative, difficult etc...poor poor child.

This is how I always feel about her. In real life I truly don't know any mums that speak about their children like this. Not even those that actually did have Post Partum Depression (unlike Shan who faked it because she probably had the wrong expectations on motherhood) talk like this about their kids.
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If she thought she had ppd in the newborn days why not address it then? Why wait until H is 7 months old? Ohh yeah, because she wasn't offered free therapy, unless she got it on the nhs but there's no benefit for her then. She's using ppd to make a profit and it makes me sick, she's bleeping vile.

She likes self-diagnosing herself for likes/profit/sympathy. So far she's had infertility, hypermobility and PDD. Yet to see proof that she had a specialist formally diagnose her with any of those.

As someone that has had both secondary infertility (we had to have IVF for our second-born) and formally diagnosed with hypermobility, I find it really insulting that she is pretending or thinks she "might" have these.

 

[Puffin_island]

Why does it feel like this is aimed at us?
Wedding rings on
Comment on going to a baby group

 

[Dramallama2]

'Emotionally manipulated' by her THREE year old!? She is absolutely vile, absolutely lowest of the low when it comes to parenting.

I also don't know a single person and have never heard another single person express such hatred and anger towards their own children. She isn't fit a be a mother, fact.

 

[realistic_real_life]

Not been on this thread for a while because you know, working and taking my toddler out to as many different places as possible . But jesus bleeping christ she is actually getting worse.

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Why does it feel like this is aimed at us?
Wedding rings on
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This is the only engagement she gets

 

[MrsHeather]

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Still looking old and haggard though

 

[cosmicstar]

Still looking old and haggard though

Must be all the amazing creams she has been trying to sell us

 

[whatshernameagain_93]

I mean I could imagine some people saying the things she does and it being funny but Shan is not funny in the slightest and it just makes her look like a witch and a terrible mother

 

[Puffin_island]

I mean I could imagine some people saying the things she does and it being funny but Shan is not funny in the slightest and it just makes her look like a witch and a terrible mother

The thing is, people probably do talk about their kids like this after a bad day, but it's usually to family or friends who will understand why you are saying that. Not documenting it to hundreds of strangers and being online for him to maybe see one day. This is why you need friends in life..... Something Shan doesn't have.

 

[Emsie]

If you follow the Oh Crap book that a lot of mums use to potty train (including me), the signs are a lot more subtle and start from 18 months. In fact it claims that after 3+ is a lot harder to potty train as kids become more feisty, which is likely whats happened to Shan. If you follow Montessori or EC (Elimination Communication) you can start even earlier and it does work. The whole readiness thing is a myth (though I do think it applies to night potty training)

I think the simple answer is Shan hasnt really tried hard enough. You need to give it 3-4 full days and your full attention to catch the signs that your child is about to pee or poop. It sounds as if she just expects him to do it all and she was potty training him while looking after a small baby, which is a massive no no.

Long story short, after two kids she still has no clue what she is doing. No one should be taking advice from this woman.

I mean do what works. I've never read a book on potty training any of mine I just went with mine and their instincts and its been fine.

The point is, preparing your child for anything takes time and patience and we can agree that Shan has shown none of this to G. Still having accidents a year later, give the kid a break and try again in a few months. Must be destroying his confidence.

 

[Amyx1518]

duck me she is irritating

 

[GuiltySnarker]

I've not watched the vlog but I'm willing to bet the number of accidents at home are related to how much TV he watches. It took my eldest until he was almost 4 to reliably be able to notice he needed the toilet whilst engrossed in TV, so a condition of it going on was that he tried on the toilet first, and we never left it on for too long.

 

[GamerLlama87]

Are influencers really flogging therapy for their insta pennies now. Something about that doesn't sit right with me, dimwits profiting from others mental health problems. Genuinely shocked.

 

[cosmicstar]

Urgh, that last IG story: "I still don't know what I'm doing but they're still alive".

If that's as low as your parenting goals reach maybe motherhood isn't for you.

 

[Emsie]

Urgh, that last IG story: "I still don't know what I'm doing but they're still alive".

If that's as low as your parenting goals reach maybe motherhood isn't for you.

It made me feel funny as well... hope no one who has lost a baby read that. Just didn't sit nicely with me. Might be a reach but I did not like that post.