she is obviously so codependent to her family - I bet it's just how she was raised and her mental health make her feel like her family is the only safe space she has in the world, but is clearly trapping her from blossoming
I don't think she'll get help. She's in too deep. And her family don't seem to care at all.
I'm not entirely clued up with what happened with her hands, but I'm a junior doc and have worked in A&E before. A&E is basically there to decide 'is there something urgent that needs to be treated now', and you're mostly focusing on the presenting complaint. If docs in A&E tried to do a full work-up, both physically and mentally, of every patient who walks in, the wait times would be doubled - that's not really their job, GPs and psychiatrists etc. are there for more long-term issues. If she's come in with a problem with her hands it's unlikely an A&E doctor is going to delve into her mental health, even pre-covid. If they'd done bloods and seen her electrolytes were really off or something, that might have been a different story, but usually the mental health team will only get involved in A&E if a patient is in crisis.
Unfortunately oil free veganism was quite a thing on the internet maybe 3-5 years ago. Holly's sister also did a video explaining why she is oil-free, and I think her reasoning is that becuase oil is refined it isn't counted as a natural source of fat. Even though if you squeeze an olive you get oil... Totally unnatural
I get major Stockholm syndrome vibes from Holly at times. She goes to great lengths to say that she doesn’t want to move out and how great her life at home is, but it really doesn’t come across that way. I suppose her admitting it really isn’t great would be very difficult for her, and honestly, she’s so isolated I do wonder if she actually realises how unusual her home-life is.
I feel bad for the poor fan who felt the need to apologise
I think it’s fairly obvious that the mum has some eating/control issues too. The vibe I get from the family is that they’re quite isolated, and they seem to have developed this attitude of being superior to everyone and everything to account for this. It’s much easier to convince yourself that the reason you’re isolated is because you’re ‘better’ than everyone else and above their boring ‘normal‘ ways, rather than take a long, hard look at how you interact with other people and how your behaviours actually might be problematic. I also think that EDs isolate people anyway and it’s a bit of a vicious circle - people with EDs isolate because they don’t want to be challenged, and when isolated, problem behaviours seem less of a problem because you’ve nothing else to compare them to. If it’s something that runs through the family, which I suspect it is, then it’s a real mess there and I feel sorry for Holly.
it's also possible they have given up... holly has shown how aggressive she can be when things are not done her way and I can see her dad just letting her do whatever as long as she doesn't collapse just to have "peace" at home
her mom is probably happy to not have fat daughters. dance can be brutal. and her dad seems emotionally absent.
Shoes are bad enough in "normal" times, but in a pandemic, yikes
‘Contact me if you need tutoring for your PhD. Also, lol, fartz
’Thank you! My dad and step mum are both musicians and if I told them to stop practicing I would be kicked out/told to go away. You can’t tell someone who needs to practice something they do for a living to stop. It’s ridiculous. Noise cancelling headphones work wonders for me with some ambient/white noise. Everyone is different but at the end of the day it’s showing how much Holly really isn’t accustomed to other people’s needs and timetables. It’s infuriating.
I'm all for second hand and sustainability but draw the line at lycra sweat-absorbent shorts lmao
