Is the arm-waving thing her new 'thing' like Joey in Friends deciding he needs a new walk
)it said 'Catherine's ankles were moisturised' - don't ask me why it just amused me. Rather shows his age, doesn't it? Trying to recapture lost youth
Someone upthread had remarked that she thought herself so important that she could overshadow the coronation with pics of herself hiking. Yep, she does, and she also has a habit of thinking that she is way hotter and prettier than she actually is. Remember the footage of her getting the red dress fitted/her petulant attitude at the event with that dress? We know that was a monstrosity, and not like got crumpled on the way messy.
Bet she thought, wow, I've lost so much weight and had that surgery so have had a magical transformation, not that I needed it. But my fans must be missing me so let me give everyone a lovely surprise. Let me get 'papped', the plebs will die of jealousy and wonder. She is absolutely delusional.
We see that sort of thinking and behaviour amongst bridezillas all the time, and even people with birthdays - my day, my week, my year, my decade. Experienced it with my narc relatives - I said, so my will be done, my event so everyone has to drop everything for days to focus solely on me. In the middle of the most acrimonious fights, my narc uncle's grandchild was born. So they expected us to drop everything and proclaim the coming of the next best thing after his wife and DIL, and to be in absolute raptures and die to attend all the functions they were organising to welcome the child, who we had absolutely no clue was coming. And for whose premature birth (a huge lie) we had been blamed.
Delusional is too mild and polite a word actually.
Thank youdefinitely agree about stress. We've got some inherited chronic stuff like bronchitis. Should be mild and just inconvenient, but stress makes it into a whole other thing. Plus post-covid/long Covid. One thing leading to another. Not getting a stitch in time.
Tiny update: Doc just reviewed and said this is most likely Covid, given that my oxygen levels are dipping. Will continue to treat as the flu. I could have done without the diagnosis, frankly. The panic attacks are horrendous. Anyway, it's not gone, so everyone should still stay alert and practise safety measures.
Relatively peaceful in the house right now. I'm being more vocal about what I'm doing, mum's mostly sleeping, and I'm getting very irritated with dad for not practising safety measures properly - she loves it when we are in conflict. I'm trying to impose essential survival activities only mode to reduce work and stress, but it's very difficult to convince an Indian housewife when she's in the Indian housewife mode to adhere to that
About mum. It's complicated. She isn't that bad either. Some things she can't help, some things that I guess she learned and can't stop using as a survival tactic. All my grandparents were abusive to my parents - physically and emotionally. Narcs and enablers. Golden children, my parents were the scapegoats. They were groomed to basically fail - not allowed to stand up for themselves, bad habits encouraged, beaten down at every step. Her father and brother used our circumstances to exploit and control me and her financially and legally. She started breaking out of their hold only last year, but has a long way to go yet. A lot of her 'mean' or 'greedy' behaviours stem from trauma. Some are just the only dynamic she has experienced. That household is so horribly toxic. Same with her in-laws, though that side's style was thankfully quieter but more manipulative.
I can't cut any of them off until she does, and she won't. Can't cut her off because they'll use it to cause legal trouble for me. Made sure through grooming and disruption tactics that I don't have the resources or the necessary smartness to fight them. Plus she's a victim too and she's my mother. I do love her. And she's pretty cool at times. Also she's been sick all her life so that has played a huge role. Plus she hasn't had the advantage of growing up with the internet and having access to information about abuse. No one like Tattlers to point out narc behaviour that she could relate to. Plus of course anyone, especially a narc, would deny as wrong their own traits. I used to tell her but I'm the last person she would ever listen to.
I've developed unhealthy behaviours to survive myself, and God knows how many narcissistic traits I've inheritedso I hardly have a leg to stand on. I've just vowed to break the cycle, and seems like the universe agrees = no chance at getting a partner. Oh well. Better single and lonely than to bag myself a male Smegs. Can you imagine the horror?
The Mail are saying he didn't go to BP as there wasn't time.
Among the many many many dreadful photos there are of him, that's one of the worst imo.
Mystery solved upthread by @Mollywobbles - he used Meghan's broomstick.
His attitude to his inheritance is an infuriating. He thinks inherited money is his to keep, and someone else should pay for all his (unnecessary) expenses if he has no independent source of income. If papa wonāt cough up, then the poor should put their hands in their pockets. Because he didnāt ask to be a Prince. Anyone else would expect to live off the inherited money if they had nothing else. Well, I didnāt ask to be a pleb and have to go to work to earn a living. Iām not sitting on millions. I donāt have a 16 bathroom monstrosity in Montecito. So duck off hanger boy.
Iād love to see the individual family photos ie the Walesā etc
Recollections may vary, I remember it like this:
Thanks for filling me in.
"I stick up for my wife, but how dare my Papa do the same".
THIS a thousand times !!!
Reading between the lines it seems obvious that no one exactly knows what the show will be about ... I've read: "It's not going to be political, but we will cover politics". Which makes no bleeping sense. I'm pretty sure Barkley will say something outrageous within a few months (if the show even gets off the ground) and it'll be canned. Wouldn't surprise me if madam will be a guest. Just giving you a heads up, I just heard about it just now. I think there's an article in Variety if you wanna look for it.Iād love to see them too!
I don't think I mind Bea, but I don't want Euge anywhere near Royal duties. They need to give Zara a title and rope her in when she gives up competing. Depending on when William takes over, he could be really short on numbers if his children are too young to take on Royal duties. And they should be allowed their own lives first anyway.
She would just have been invited to watch it like APB as mother of the heir.
The Tindalls would be a safe bet - popular, funny and down to earth.
Yes. I was concerned at first to see William looking elsewhere while speaking (first saw the moment in the recap). Then I realised that he was reading from the card. Felt a bit not-picture perfect, but then this wasn't an occasion where an "I take thee, Rachel" moment could have been tolerated
Thank you. My therapist told me the same thing, so I said maybe I fooled her. I see this is quite a common anxiety. So nice to hear this
Thank you
She's definitely got multiple narcs on her head, apart from other people with their own agendas - mostly entertainment - whispering in her ears. That's what she was conditioned to be like - listen and obey insofar it suits the narc abusers. So leaving her be isn't ideal. Not just for our sakes, but her own. Surrounded by hyenas basically.
Organisations here aren't much help. They're mostly just vehicles to earn the board members etc money. Some are genuine, but in this situation nothing much can be done unless she decides to make a change. She did try, which is why we are where we are. Some trouble is inevitable when you try to break out of narc control. Which is why I can sometimes understand the BRF's position.
One breakthrough and everything will start getting better. Mum will still be a narc and have those trauma habits, but I'll have more bandwidth to navigate them.
The nice thing is that she's been calm and affection every time she has woken up, so today might go bettermy infection peak is also over, now have the more difficult cough-y tired stage, but that too shall pass.
I'll wash my hair today!!
