Lets assume things were bad between the brothers before she came along, this could well be the case.
Lets assume he was traumatised by his mothers death before she came along, no doubt that's the case.
When you find someone you fall in love with and marry isn't that supposed to help you deal with tit in your life. Help you face issues and solve problems. Help you deal with and resolve things. SO why, since he met and married her doesn't that seem to have happened in fact things have become worse???
Like most narcs, she spotted his weak ass a mile off and knew she could exploit his weakness from the beginning. They’ve become worse because if he’d never have met her, he’d still be dealing with things in the bosom of his family (most likely in a very private and heavily protected way) but because she is sooooo narcissistic and he is so weak and malleable, he has essentially assumed the worst parts of her personality.
She has been behind this from day one, encouraging him to tell ‘his truth’ because, as a narc, she feels entitled to say what she wants and treat people however she likes without any challenge or criticism. They are always right, they are never wrong and other people are just collateral damage when it comes to what they want and how they feel.
It’s just sad that Harry seems to have lost the ability to think for himself but my guess is that he is so infatuated and enamoured with her (and probably scared of her in more ways than one) it’s just easier to be like her and do what she wants because she is dominant bully and it’s always easier to cow tow to people like that, at least in the beginning.
I don’t actually think he realises yet how much he has been manipulated but I honestly think that day will come because again, like most narcs, when she has got what she wants from him and discards him like a piece of rubbish that might be when Harry reflects on it and realises what he’s done.
Or they both might stay together forever and continue to think they never did anything wrong
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