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yeh i wonder this too. Even just in the sense of wanting the best for your child it seems strange to go for a "low cost" option (regardless of the ethical implications), if you can afford this surely you would prefer to pay someone who is in a country where you understand the medical system, that the woman will be eating well during the pregnancy etc?
Exactly. IVF is ok because it is a helping hand for people to conceive and carry a baby themselves. Paying someone else to do it for you from another country is just not right. The disenfranchised and the poor get abused again.
Surrogacy is illegal where they're from (Sweden) and I believe Denmark (where the egg is from), unless the woman uses her own egg and gives the baby up for adoption without a fee (effectively like helping out a friend).
I think their options were Eastern Europe and India and for whatever reason, they decided India was a better option. They also seriously considered the U.S. but it's very expensive with lots of legal restrictions so it would've taken longer and been more difficult/expensive.
Interesting that it is illegal there, I wonder if there is a chnace they could be prosecuted? It's also so sad when there are so many children who need to be adopted
They are still family even if I disagree with some of their actions so I hope not!
My understanding is that they can't be given it happened in a place where it is legal and given the children have genetic ties to either him or his partner (both of whom are Swedish), they are legally Swedish. Apparently it's fairly common there to go abroad for surrogacy given they can't do it at home.
I agree it's sad that people don't adopt children instead but I suppose a lot of people want to have a genetic link with their children (which is a whole other debate onto itself).
I believe commercial surrogacy is illegal in most of the developed world (unless it's more of a legal adoption process without a transfer of fees) with a few exceptions but that doesn't stop thousands of parents from the developed world from going abroad each year and bringing home "their babies."
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I saw this earlier
that is horrific. If you are so shallow you want to specify your child's appearance you do not deserve to be a parent, you just want an accessory clearly. Most people just hope for a healthy child. Disgusting
I think sadly a lot of parents really care about this and I even think it plays subconsciously into people's choice in partners in many ways such as looking for taller, fit partners with good skin and symmetrical faces. I agree that going as far as to hair and eye hair is extreme and borderlines eugenics.
But ultimately, WHY ARE PEOPLE ALLOWED TO BUY AND SELL CHILDREN. Disgusting.
A distant family friend (my MIL’s friend’s daughter to be precise) has two children born from surrogacy - one from India and one from Ukraine
It is exploitation. There’s no other word for it. How people can bring themselves to do it I don’t know (I mean I do know - desperation for a child). I find it absolutely abhorrent. Julie Bindel has written about it a lot over the years.
The unhappy truth about surrogacy
BBC drama The Nest romanticises — and normalises — the renting of women's wombs
unherd.com
The situation in Ukraine during lockdown with surrogate babies stranded and “uncollected” in hospitals should have been a worldwide bleeping scandal.
The Stranded Babies of the Coronavirus Disaster
A Brooklyn couple’s daughter was due to be born in April, to a surrogate in Ukraine. Then the virus struck.
The fact that they call it the 'surrogacy trade' is very telling.
Women, babies and pregnancy are simply commodities to be bought and sold.
Women, babies and pregnancy are simply commodities to be bought and sold.
what have they said???
What the hell! That’s great, but... what is happening?
Exactly my thoughts! Total 180 degree turn.
Isn't Mermaids the organisation set up by a Mum who pushed for gender reassignment for their child?
Looks like Crispin Blunt is trying to lose Liz Truss her job - isn’t he the guy who left his wife for another man but voted against gay rights? 
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