This is just it. I’ve said in here before that I always refuse male doctors/nurses when it’s of an intimate nature, even in child birth I refused a male doctor and had to wait for the female doc. I honestly get so upset at the thought of a man ‘down there’ (that isn’t my husband). When I say male doctors I include trans women doctors too. Because they are not women. And that is my right. No one has the right to tell me I’m a bigot for feeling this way. It’s not anti man or anti trans. I have my reasons and they are no one’s business.I recently had an ultrasound done on my heart - a man did the scan. I was fine with it - I had to get completely naked from the waist up.
I told my mum and she said she'd be uncomfortable with it. She was attacked when she was younger by a man who went on to murder someone else.
Just because I was fine with it, doesn't mean she should be. Ignorance is bliss - lived experience shapes opinions. If you haven't been attacked or raped, you have no right to speak for the women who have or tell them what they should think.
And I'm really annoyed that I had to look up ovarian cysts today, and the Cleveland Clinic used 'person with ovaries' in their article rather than 'woman'.
Same goes for my mum. She had a breast exam/treatment by a woman recently and during it and while my mums arms were above her head and she was told to stay still, a male nurse wandered in to adjust the machine that was being used and manhandled my mums breasts, without a word to her. She was so upset. There was no consent on my mums part and afterwards when my mum was in tears, the female nurses just repeated that he was just as qualified as them. There doesn’t seem to be any respect for women’s boundaries, privacy and dignity, even from some other women. I was raging. Yet these same women will die on the TWAW hill. It will never, ever make sense to me. @Elle good on you for sticking around here, hopefully some of what we have said has made an impact but I appreciate you desperately want to believe TWAW for reasons you can’t explain and I’m not going to change your mind on that.