From what you have said, it sounds like some of you used to be very similar to me (highly trans sympathetic, shall we call it?!). I'm curious as to whether it applies to everyone here that you were once only slightly GC or not at all and then became increasingly GC. Or whether some of you were GC from the very start?
It's interesting because Contrapoints described being GC as being in a whirlpool and once you're in deep you can't get out of it whereas some of you have said it's a case of having your eyes opened and not being able to unsee it.
The latter for me. Rachel Dolezal came up in conversation with a workmate and it struck me all of a sudden; how is self-identifying gender any different to self-identifying race? Why is weight-related body dysmorphia treated as a mental illness but believing your genitalia should be different is A-OK? It shifted my thinking enough to apply more of a "what if" lens, and the more I thought about it, there's not a single trans person I know personally or have seen online who doesn't seem to have some deep mental shit going on. I don't mean that to sound dismissive or reductive, but from what I've seen, it's true - there's
always a deep, complex mental battle behind the trans-ness, be it unresolved trauma, belonging to a homophobic family, not receiving adequate love or attention elsewhere, former/current abuse, etc.
I know three people personally who have gone through long, painful medical journeys to transition, and right before their surgery (in New Zealand - I don't know how different the process might be overseas) have pulled the pin and started the process of reversing everything because actually they're just gay. With each, I wonder how different their personal journey and wellbeing might be/have been with appropriate mental health support vs. blind promotion/encouragement of trans?
The more I thought about it, the more I read, the more convinced I became that trans is simply a form of body dysmorphia, and it's a crying shame that we have a completely broken mental health system (in New Zealand, at least) and are leaving people broken and alone but pouring funding and support into this new 'movement'. Publicly funded IVF has some very questionable eligibility criteria and requires a fair bit of hoop-jumping for straight couples, but trans get fast-tracked through. There are a whole lot of 'wtf' moments out there, and when you boil things down, it
is an ideology. It's not science, it's not biological fact, and if you engage a little 'whataboutism', it's really bloody scary that we're quick to agree people have been born into the wrong bodies and do everything we can to nurture them through the journey to their 'real selves' re gender but not disability or illness. It's just not real life. I'm sure lots of people with dwarfism feel they were born into the wrong bodies, but hey, tough shit.
It just doesn't make sense to me, speaking purely factually, then when you consider how quickly and drastically society at large has adapted and changed to pander to this specifically, things get scary. Live your life, sure, but like others have said above, why does
everybody and everything have to change for this one ideology, the population of which is without doubt a minority? And often temporary - like veganism, Christianity, Buddhism, or any other ideology, some are committed forever but plenty back off or move away from it altogether. Disabled people or those with chronic illness understand mainstream health messaging doesn't always speak to them and have had to learn to advocate for themselves and adapt where necessary. We won't go out of our way for people living with conditions they have no choice about - often we won't even do the bare fucking basics of making public spaces accessible - but we WILL make huge concessions and adapt society at large for people who want to be a different gender?
... Etc.