I was a bit braver yesterday at work, had a chat and walk with another female colleague and they brought up their surprise at another person in another department suddenly presenting as they/them, cropped hair, men's clothing etc. I let her lead (as she didn't know I am GC), the gist of her views was that whilst she could understand some people have dysphoria or whatever, it seems there's a lot of pick-me attention seeking going on and that whilst she will respect pronouns she doesn't want men in the female loos for safety and privacy reasons and she worries about school kids being told to tell their parents off for "accidentally deadnaming" them etc.
So apart from the pronouns she's pretty much a terf
I reciprocated and said it's tough, that we can't talk more openly about it at work because we constantly have to do unconscious bias refreshers, constantly told we must think this and we must think that. She agreed. It was so refreshing to know someone else in the team is questioning this stuff.
I think some parents (she is one) are starting to see that their kids are being indoctrinated with this pick-me mentality, all-adults-are-bigots ideology. I pointed out to her that top surgery seems to be the new anorexia, and that sex offenders becoming "trans" is the new "Judge, I have found Jesus, be lenient". She didn't disagree.
There's one woman in my team who is very epitome of a pick-me ally who jumps down peoples throats over everything, so I am wary of her, and don't bring stuff up casually in earshot of her, but it is heartening to know my other colleague has common sense.
Oh and my place pushes rainbow lanyards so much, I pretty much had them waved in my face as a reminder that they are available to swap out for my existing one. We have default plain colour one for the employer when we join, a colour synonymous with the brand of the place, but some keen managers keep reminding us where we can collect rainbow lanyards and badges to replace the lanyard. I have resisted, firstly because I don't like being forced to comply, but mostly because I don't wear my badge as I get rashes from wearing the lanyard so I always have it on my desk instead and only carry it when moving around to other rooms. I respect and support LGB but I do not like the incessant box ticking and reminders that the lanyards are available. How about tell us once where they are and then leave us alone. Some of us go to work to answer emails and complete tasks, stop treating us like mannequins for your virtue signalling. I am all for the occasional refresher session on being nice to everyone regardless of background and race and sex etc, but stop preaching at us on every bulletin, in every departmental meeting etc. To me, it feels the same as when you try to swerve the overenthusiastic street preachers in the town centre. I just want to do my job without being told I need to comply to a surface level "accept all these million new genders or else you are a bigot". Leave women alone, leave LGB alone, leave men alone, leave children alone.
One of my favourite ex-colleagues is lesbian, and she loves Dave Chappelle's skits and has said she can't stand pick-me behaviour of the place we worked (partly why she left), and she never donned the rainbow lanyard, happily dressed androgynously without making a fanfare about it, and never made her sexuality her personality in the workplace. One of the most humble and hardworking people I have ever known and my "work idol", someone I aspire to be like in terms of my work output. People like her, just being authentic, inspire me. I think this goes to show that you can be supportive of people, inspired by people who differ to you, when they don't push it in your face. I am far more likely to listen to real people with real stories than the general surface level stuff being pushed on social media, but it seems that the attention seekers get all the coverage and genuine people like my ex-colleague are mostly ignored.
Okay that was long, lol.
TLDR-
-found a colleague at work who is concerned about ideology, finally I know I am not the only one
- work continues to push ideology and the rainbow wearables
- genuine LGB people are often overshadowed by the surface level capitulation-or-bigot trend