I totally see what you’re saying, but for me personally (as someone who has commented on her appearance), if I were to just see her in the street I wouldn’t think she looks bad, it’s because I know who she is and have seen her looking so much better, and while there is nothing wrong with wearing no make up etc. it’s the stark contrast to how she used to look that I comment on, if I didn’t know her from Adam I wouldn’t even give her appearance a thought. Hope that makes sense - baby brain!I honestly don’t think it would take much for her to be conventionally attractive again. Eyebrow tint, fake tan, putting some eyeliner and mascara on… clothes that flatter her. And crucially, die that hair back to brown. Extensions again for the added wow factor.
Honestly? I’m not attractive, and look worse than her with no effort. Part of me applauds her for not bothering in a way, it is a big fuck you to the beauty standards we are held account to. I’m so embarrassed how I look, and as much as people say it’s what’s on the inside that counts, a lot of comments here really do prove that isn’t that case for many people, which makes me feel even shittier tbh.
Another part of me thinks she would feel a lot more confident within herself if she started making the effort again, especially considering the nature of her job. So I’m torn really.
Is appearance important? Arguably not.
Is it linked to your mental health and self concept? Well yes.
So maybe it IS more important than TikTok etc would have you believe.
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