I think part of the problem is the lack of friends, which again, is also her fault. But the thing is, as much as you love and adore your friends, there sadly reaches a point in your life where you sometimes need to take a step back and focus on yourself and realise you can’t help or put any more time into a friend when they won’t put any work in themselves. Then the cycle continues, she wants a fun little girl gang like you see in the movies when life is just not like that. We have families to look after, husbands/wives/partners/kids.. we have work, uni, things to attend and our own mental health to deal with. If you’re struggling with mental health yourself, it’s very hard to help other friends that are too. I’ve had friends I’ve lost friends in the past because of being depressed and anxious and cancelling on things such as a best friends wedding, parties etc. although I was struggling, it hurt them deeply and I knew I needed to get some help. It wasn’t until I turned 30 and started struggling with panic attacks that I sought help and it changed my whole life. You never really know how bad you’re struggling until you start feeling better.. but when you’re young, you don’t even realise that there’s a better way to live. I’m very fortunate that I found a great psychologist and can mostly manage my life without any medication but I have to put in the work and use the strategies I’ve learnt Every. Single. Day.
I do wish Gab would do some things for herself, reach out to one of her followers for a walk along the beach with her starrrrrbs, go sing at a nursing home, anything, doesn’t have to be grand gestures and documented on social media
